i need someone to talk to but i dont want to go to a therapist just some one to listen i dont have anyone at this point and i cant take it. Im 16.Anybody that has great advice for a panic attack/crying teenager?
It helps when someone (or yourself) calmly reminds you that it is only a panic attack. Try to take deep breaths and relax your shoulders. Remind yourself it is not real - only a panic attack. Try to do something that takes your focus away from the situation. Like washing the dishes, cleaning, or go for a walk.
If you have been diagnosed with a medical illness or have a history of panic attacks you should talk to your doctor.Anybody that has great advice for a panic attack/crying teenager?
Ok for panic attacks breathing helps i have asthma so i get panic attacks every once in awhile. Also if you need someone to talk, try a close friend, teachers at school, someone you trust. Also if you don't have anyone to talk to at all that you trust try writing it down in a journal... if that still doesn't help I can talk to you but you probably wouldn't be comfortable talking to someone you don't know... :) you can pull through whatever it is you are going through
Even though you don't want to go to a therapist you need to for the correct medication to control your panic attacks. Actually you need to see a psychiatrist (a MD or DO) because only a psychiatrist can prescribe medications. Therapists, psychologists and other counselors can't.
Doctors are there to help you and you won't be able to rid yourself of these attacks without one. Panic attacks are caused by anxiety.
yoga just buy a book or a video from the store
turn on some random music like the sounds of the beach waves, or a waterfall, etc
it feels soooo good you'd be suprised, and it would help you learn about clear breathing, because that's one of the sole purposes.
a therapist would be a good idea, I always left mine feeling quite refreshed
but if you really dont want to , write in a journal
its sounds tacky and cliched, but it helps, because not only does it release the same amount of tension as talking to somebody, but it also helps you sort through your thoughts and look back on what you've said before
i turned mine into a project, and for every page I wrote, I would make a collage on the back of it, just stuff expressing my emotions and all that stuff
(: i know that makes me sound like an obnoxious wannabe artist girl or something annoying along those lines but the collage just made writing in a journal more creative, and i needed a journal so that i could feel like i had someone to talk to
:D hope you feel better
i would always consider talking to a good friend about some personal problems also you could write down off your feelings of angst, frustration or whatever else may plague you, put it in an envelope and keep them somewhere just to get it off of your chest
or do what i do and i just listen to music, go over things that i am having private issues with by reviewing them in my head, and hopefully i can just feel better by trying to forget (feels more like suppression which i am sure cannot be good.. but meh)
but i think it may also depend on the severity of what might be wrong.
Read.
Write.
Things like that distract you. I know, I'm 14 and I have been through lots of depression. It sucks. All you need to do is realize that you aren't the only person that's upset in this world. Ahh, therapists are too reliable. You need to see one. I did. Don't be embarrassed it doesn't mean you're crazy(:
They can help you get stuff out.
That's just my suggestions, at leasttt.
An emotional problem no doubt, complicating your health.. Your doctor would likely prescribe a ten-day regimen of a tranquilizer, declining through the last 4 days. And you definitely should consult with your physician.
breathe
therapist is a musttt
there good!!
talk to your parents
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Teenager/youth/yob/chav problem please give advice?
Whenever I'm faced by a yob or chav I can't controll myself, I always shake. Not if I see one or one walks past me and gives me a dirty look or anything, just if a chav starts squaring up to me or having a go. Like for example, the other day I was walking home and this chav who I could definately take starts having a go at me for no reason, just gives me a look and I say what or something and it goes on from there, and even if it is 100% impossible that he couldn't beat me up if things were to get out of hand, like if he was a couple of years younger than me and I had a friend, I would still embarisangly shake loads, causing them to laugh and take the piss. I need more confidence and to be able to keep my emotions/shaking in.Teenager/youth/yob/chav problem please give advice?
you need to be more confident
you have no reason to fear them
i also have the same problem
a few years back i was so confident and went out a lot with a friend
i then went to visit my cousin miles away from my town
while out with her i got beaten up i was 13
the person that beat me up was 12
they started taking pictures and recording
ididn'tt go out for ages after that i lost all my confidence and have only just started going out
i still never go out at night
you need to think in your head that nothing bad willhappenn to you try to look like youhaven'tt got a care in the world
you need to be more confident
you have no reason to fear them
i also have the same problem
a few years back i was so confident and went out a lot with a friend
i then went to visit my cousin miles away from my town
while out with her i got beaten up i was 13
the person that beat me up was 12
they started taking pictures and recording
ididn'tt go out for ages after that i lost all my confidence and have only just started going out
i still never go out at night
you need to think in your head that nothing bad willhappenn to you try to look like youhaven'tt got a care in the world
Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
We've been to both individual and family counseling for almost 2 years. Teenager's behavior/mood have not improved. Internalizes anger. Doesn't cooperate with anyone at home or at school. Feels respect is not due to anyone on earth ever (not parents, teachers, or anyone in authoritative figure). Narcissistic. Sense of self entitlement. Bad grades. Never finishes school or home work. Never completes chores. No interest in anything. Hates the world and everyone in it.... I'm spent. HELP!!! Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
Oh, wow...I can really empathize with what you're going through. My 30-year old daughter is bipolar, and I've cried buckets of tears with the frustration, worry, and disappointment from her endless drama.
For my daughter, all the counseling and psycho-analysis in the world wouldn't have changed a thing. She didn't begin resembling a human until she finally found a good mental health doctor who knows the right mix of meds that she needed. Is your teen on any meds? Don't let friends, family, or neighbors shame you into refusing to get your teen on meds. Dealing with mental illness is a nightmare, and unfair as it feels, the buck stops with we poor parents. So, be an aggressive advocate for your teen's needs (as well as the needs of you and your family for a little peace and control).
Also, if you've been seeing the same therapist all this time without progress, then get a new one. If patient and therapist don't ';click';, there will be no progress at all. If your family doctor won't prescribe meds, then find one who will. Find a mental health support group aimed at helping families cope.
Also, read through the good points on the Mayo Clinic's website, just in case there's something there you have't already tried. Depending on how old your teen is, you might have to being the process of ';detatching'; yourself from the drama - if it's possible at this stage.
God, I really feel for you. Best of luck!!Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
Thank you all for your suggestions. They are greatly appreciated.
Odd? no it isn't..... HARD - truly!
This is harder than usual because you have absolutely NO CONTROL over how your son behaves or thinks and any attempts at normal parenting or discipline are no doubt USELESS - am I right?
You have to realize that you have a DISABLED CHILD - that won't make him any easier but you have to start viewing HIM differently and remember that it may never change and somehow come to terms with WHO HE IS now - for the better or worse.
I know being a parent really sucks sometimes (I have 4 also) and we can't stop being one EVER - even at times such as this. Certainly there has to be some support groups in your area. YOU need some local, friendly, compassionate ears and friends who understand are are going through the same thing as you. Check your local counselors office for referrals. It might give you some degree of BREAK. I'm so sorry.... you do sound SPENT.
try finding something they like. anything. they cant possibly hate everything.
God help you.
Sorry .. this matches some symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and that requires long term institutional care to help.
Symptoms
The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder revolve around a pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and sense of entitlement. Often individuals feel overly important and will exaggerate achievements and will accept, and often demand, praise and admiration despite worthy achievements. They may be overwhelmed with fantasies involving unlimited success, power, love, or beauty and feel that they can only be understood by others who are, like them, superior in some aspect of life.There is a sense of entitlement, of being more deserving than others based solely on their superiority. These symptoms, however, are a result of an underlying sense of inferiority and are often seen as overcompensation. Because of this, they are often envious and even angry of others who have more, receive more respect or attention, or otherwise steal away the spotlight.
just keep weapons out of his reach. Don't let him get interested in them. Limit his exposure to violent influences.. Let him feel free to talk and don't be judgmental..even if warranted.. you just want to see where his mind is ..and make sure he's not planning on something rash against you.. . .. more opposition. give two choices when asking for tasks..and stay near by till completed.. help him along..encourage him but don't be confrontational..
might need to look at a small faith based alternative school for completing his education.. if you have a belief system start there.. ..if not homeschooling is not an option..
You can look into your county or state institutions. They have programs that will help shelter teens that have concerns that overwhelm parents. .. Texas has such programs with mhmr..
The programs help the kids learn to deal with their families in more meaningful ways and help families learn to work through the problems. .. and find permanent solutions with out ';ongoing therapy'; that could drain a families pockets.
The programs usually are as needed. .. some are in house sheltering programs and some are done out patient basis.
This is from the dsm
http://allpsych.com/disorders/personalit鈥?/a>
and from working with kids with similar and worse issues.
Oh, wow...I can really empathize with what you're going through. My 30-year old daughter is bipolar, and I've cried buckets of tears with the frustration, worry, and disappointment from her endless drama.
For my daughter, all the counseling and psycho-analysis in the world wouldn't have changed a thing. She didn't begin resembling a human until she finally found a good mental health doctor who knows the right mix of meds that she needed. Is your teen on any meds? Don't let friends, family, or neighbors shame you into refusing to get your teen on meds. Dealing with mental illness is a nightmare, and unfair as it feels, the buck stops with we poor parents. So, be an aggressive advocate for your teen's needs (as well as the needs of you and your family for a little peace and control).
Also, if you've been seeing the same therapist all this time without progress, then get a new one. If patient and therapist don't ';click';, there will be no progress at all. If your family doctor won't prescribe meds, then find one who will. Find a mental health support group aimed at helping families cope.
Also, read through the good points on the Mayo Clinic's website, just in case there's something there you have't already tried. Depending on how old your teen is, you might have to being the process of ';detatching'; yourself from the drama - if it's possible at this stage.
God, I really feel for you. Best of luck!!Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
Thank you all for your suggestions. They are greatly appreciated.
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Odd? no it isn't..... HARD - truly!
This is harder than usual because you have absolutely NO CONTROL over how your son behaves or thinks and any attempts at normal parenting or discipline are no doubt USELESS - am I right?
You have to realize that you have a DISABLED CHILD - that won't make him any easier but you have to start viewing HIM differently and remember that it may never change and somehow come to terms with WHO HE IS now - for the better or worse.
I know being a parent really sucks sometimes (I have 4 also) and we can't stop being one EVER - even at times such as this. Certainly there has to be some support groups in your area. YOU need some local, friendly, compassionate ears and friends who understand are are going through the same thing as you. Check your local counselors office for referrals. It might give you some degree of BREAK. I'm so sorry.... you do sound SPENT.
try finding something they like. anything. they cant possibly hate everything.
God help you.
Sorry .. this matches some symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and that requires long term institutional care to help.
Symptoms
The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder revolve around a pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and sense of entitlement. Often individuals feel overly important and will exaggerate achievements and will accept, and often demand, praise and admiration despite worthy achievements. They may be overwhelmed with fantasies involving unlimited success, power, love, or beauty and feel that they can only be understood by others who are, like them, superior in some aspect of life.There is a sense of entitlement, of being more deserving than others based solely on their superiority. These symptoms, however, are a result of an underlying sense of inferiority and are often seen as overcompensation. Because of this, they are often envious and even angry of others who have more, receive more respect or attention, or otherwise steal away the spotlight.
just keep weapons out of his reach. Don't let him get interested in them. Limit his exposure to violent influences.. Let him feel free to talk and don't be judgmental..even if warranted.. you just want to see where his mind is ..and make sure he's not planning on something rash against you.. . .. more opposition. give two choices when asking for tasks..and stay near by till completed.. help him along..encourage him but don't be confrontational..
might need to look at a small faith based alternative school for completing his education.. if you have a belief system start there.. ..if not homeschooling is not an option..
You can look into your county or state institutions. They have programs that will help shelter teens that have concerns that overwhelm parents. .. Texas has such programs with mhmr..
The programs help the kids learn to deal with their families in more meaningful ways and help families learn to work through the problems. .. and find permanent solutions with out ';ongoing therapy'; that could drain a families pockets.
The programs usually are as needed. .. some are in house sheltering programs and some are done out patient basis.
This is from the dsm
http://allpsych.com/disorders/personalit鈥?/a>
and from working with kids with similar and worse issues.
Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
Parents...
What would you want to do to help if your teenager was being discriminated against (by a supposed friend) at their part-time job because they were gay?
What advice/suggestions would you have for the gay teenager, the discriminator and both of their parents?
You don't have to be able to relate to the situation! Any advice is welcome!!
Thanks!Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
My advise to him/her would be to keep your head up. A lot of people don't get down with gays. As a parent myself who is teaching my kids to not be with the same sex, it still might happened. They have to be strong for themselves. People are not going to change! He/she has to find their inner strength and build off that. He/she needs to be around positive people. As far as the parents goes. No matter what he/she may be or who they may love. We as parents need to love them unconditional. They are of our blood, our flesh, our tears, our pain, our heart and our understanding.Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
You didn't say if it's boys or girls or both. And you didn't mention what you mean by discriminate.
If he or she is physically able to beat the stuffing out of this alleged friend it'd send a message. That'd be the most desirable outcome in my opinion.
Otherwise he/she could try reporting the undesired behavior to the employer but that's chancy. What employer wants to get in the middle of this sort of thing?
Lastly he/she could quit and get another job and reflect on the wisdom of the Don't Ask/Don't Tell policy.
Tell him/her to decide exactly what place this person has in their life %26amp; then how much power their words have over their day. Ur child has the right like every1 else to be all of themselves and no 1 else. Ur child has to believe that 4 every1 else around them to (whether they admit it/not).
Ask your teenager to conform to the rest of the World instead of expecting the World to change. Leave sex at home. Go to work to do his or her job and keep the private life private.
tell them to stop acting gay and it will all go away
What would you want to do to help if your teenager was being discriminated against (by a supposed friend) at their part-time job because they were gay?
What advice/suggestions would you have for the gay teenager, the discriminator and both of their parents?
You don't have to be able to relate to the situation! Any advice is welcome!!
Thanks!Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
My advise to him/her would be to keep your head up. A lot of people don't get down with gays. As a parent myself who is teaching my kids to not be with the same sex, it still might happened. They have to be strong for themselves. People are not going to change! He/she has to find their inner strength and build off that. He/she needs to be around positive people. As far as the parents goes. No matter what he/she may be or who they may love. We as parents need to love them unconditional. They are of our blood, our flesh, our tears, our pain, our heart and our understanding.Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
You didn't say if it's boys or girls or both. And you didn't mention what you mean by discriminate.
If he or she is physically able to beat the stuffing out of this alleged friend it'd send a message. That'd be the most desirable outcome in my opinion.
Otherwise he/she could try reporting the undesired behavior to the employer but that's chancy. What employer wants to get in the middle of this sort of thing?
Lastly he/she could quit and get another job and reflect on the wisdom of the Don't Ask/Don't Tell policy.
Tell him/her to decide exactly what place this person has in their life %26amp; then how much power their words have over their day. Ur child has the right like every1 else to be all of themselves and no 1 else. Ur child has to believe that 4 every1 else around them to (whether they admit it/not).
Ask your teenager to conform to the rest of the World instead of expecting the World to change. Leave sex at home. Go to work to do his or her job and keep the private life private.
tell them to stop acting gay and it will all go away
I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
I am trying to become more of a young gentleman (I am 17) in Scotland. However, I have concern as to how I should address a lady in conversation, particularly older women for example, aged 40 and over (not that I am implying that 40 is old, it's just an example! :D)
I work in a store where I am expected to address customers properly. I know how to address men e.g. ';Good afternoon, Sir'; but I have a problem as to how to address older ladies. Do I address her as ';Miss';, ';Madam'; or ';Ma'am';?
I would greatly appreciate any answers. And thank you :)I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Oh you are lovely. And a rare breed. There is so little courtesy these days among younger people. I am not blaming them. It is just not taught these days. Though in the Baltic States men are expected to be corteous. There it is the women who have the trouble!
You just say ';Good afternoon, Madam.'; regardless of whether the lady is married or not. You often cannot tell these days. Married ladies do not always wear rings on their ring finger or unmarried ones wear a ring on that finger, and I have never been able to discern the difference between an engagement ring or a wedding ring. Or, if you know their name, then Miss/Mrs Bloggs.
Ask their opinion on something and open doors, pull out chairs for ladies and offer your seat when a bus or train is full or something. But I am sure you do that anyway. It is good to have manners and costs nothing but will earn you respect.I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Miss is generally for a young woman who is not married.
Ma'am would be a response for any woman older then you, and Madam is very formal.
A safe bet would be to use ma'am as often as possible.
If you are dealing with someone who is highly respectable, (a mayor or clergyman's wife,) Madam would be more appropriate.
Hope that helps.
Address them as Ma'am. And always smile...Offer help whenever you can, but not too much to seem overexercised about your job...
Address her as Ms. not Miss bc she might be married! Ma'am for women a little older than her 40s. Some women don't like being called Ma'am because it makes them feel old.
I am 36 and HATE it when young men call me Madam..it makes me feel old. Dont call them anything.
I work in a store where I am expected to address customers properly. I know how to address men e.g. ';Good afternoon, Sir'; but I have a problem as to how to address older ladies. Do I address her as ';Miss';, ';Madam'; or ';Ma'am';?
I would greatly appreciate any answers. And thank you :)I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Oh you are lovely. And a rare breed. There is so little courtesy these days among younger people. I am not blaming them. It is just not taught these days. Though in the Baltic States men are expected to be corteous. There it is the women who have the trouble!
You just say ';Good afternoon, Madam.'; regardless of whether the lady is married or not. You often cannot tell these days. Married ladies do not always wear rings on their ring finger or unmarried ones wear a ring on that finger, and I have never been able to discern the difference between an engagement ring or a wedding ring. Or, if you know their name, then Miss/Mrs Bloggs.
Ask their opinion on something and open doors, pull out chairs for ladies and offer your seat when a bus or train is full or something. But I am sure you do that anyway. It is good to have manners and costs nothing but will earn you respect.I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Miss is generally for a young woman who is not married.
Ma'am would be a response for any woman older then you, and Madam is very formal.
A safe bet would be to use ma'am as often as possible.
If you are dealing with someone who is highly respectable, (a mayor or clergyman's wife,) Madam would be more appropriate.
Hope that helps.
Address them as Ma'am. And always smile...Offer help whenever you can, but not too much to seem overexercised about your job...
Address her as Ms. not Miss bc she might be married! Ma'am for women a little older than her 40s. Some women don't like being called Ma'am because it makes them feel old.
I am 36 and HATE it when young men call me Madam..it makes me feel old. Dont call them anything.
I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
I am 13 years old. I have been enjoying the kids world for years. Because many teenagers like to have sex but I don't want it. It's disguisting. To avoid from being a teenager, I must avoid the characteristics.Teenagers like the opposote gender. So I hate the opposite gender [what I mean is in school]. Teenagers like to hear music. So I hate to hear music - people singning. And there are many other caharacteristics that I avoid. But I'm getting used to it, I suddenly like the opposite gender, like to hear music, like to talk to the opposite gender and others. HOW to avoid those things?
I've used the hateness method but somehow the love feeling creeped slowly into my heart..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
I am sorry to tell you that becoming a teenager is something you can't stop. It happens and you have to understand that you can be a teenager without having sex or drinking or smoking or doing drugs..Those are choices you have to make as you grow up. Of course you are going to have peer pressure,but you can be strong and tell them you don't believe in underage sex and drinking or smoking or drugs of any kind. There is nothing wrong with being a teenager, just make informed decisions about things. Don't do something because everyone else is! You will be fine if you are always true to your own beliefs and listen to yourself and not the pressures from kids at school.. Parents do understand about being a teenager too, they were teenagers once. Talk to them about how you are feeling, they may have somethings to tell you that you never thought of.. Enjoy teen life and may God bless you..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
You may not be able to control the attraction to the opposite sex or other things teens like but there are many things you CAN control like if and when you have sex....the people you hang out with...the stuff you do in your spare time. Find other teens with similar attitudes and ideas and you can give each other support. As far as sex goes.....there no certain time that has to happen. You can wait forever if you want to. No one should pressure you into it. Stand your ground and just be yourself. If people bully or pressure you they aren't good people to hang around with. Enjoy this time while you can because it goes by quickly and you can't get these years back again so don't let it slip away because of fear. Try to enjoy something in each day. Let the teen things happen naturally. Don't try to suppress them you'll drive yourself crazy. just stay in control and you'll be fine. Surround yourself with people that care about you. Good luck in your life.
Just because you are becoming a teenager doesn't mean you can't still be a kid. Don't rush growing up so fast and enjoy thos teenage years. The feeling that go along with being a teenager are normal and I don't think that you can stop them. just deal with them the best of your ability
There's no law that says you have to have sex.
I think you're being silly, if the reason you hate music is because you think only teens love music.
I haven't been a teen for decades, and I've always loved music, from before teen years, and through them, and after.
Not liking music doesn't keep you a child.
There's no way to stay a child.
Children grow, and eventually become adults. That's how it works.
But where you got all these ideas that you have to do this, that, or the other, just because you're a teen I don't know.
Avoiding the characteristics (as you see them -- they have nothing to do with being a teen, BTW) doesn't make you not be a teen.
But then you don't HAVE to have sex either, if that's all you're trying to avoid.
Eventually you probably will, but by then you won't hate the idea.
Why don't you just be who you are, and like what you like, and dislike what you dislike?
That makes a lot more sense than making up a bunch of silly rules for oneself, just because you don't understand what it means to grow up.
stick to your books, that will help and you will also get good grade. besides before you know it you will be all those things you hate. it happens
I'm going to be an adult. I'm 20 in 18 days. Goodbye, teenagehood!
I too have tried the hateness method. I hate people who work. I hate work. I hate responsibility. I sleep in all day (then wonder why I'm tired and grumpy and vitamin D deprived).
But somehow, adult-ness has crept up on me. I'm politically active; I follow the news; I'm getting a car and a job; and I've decided idiots who sleep all day for no reason deserve their depression. I'm also the main chef/cleaner/account keeper for my house (in which I am the youngest member); and I even do the grocery shopping!
Somehow, life sneaks these things up on you.
So being a kid was fun. Write about it. Get all the things you love about being a kid down on paper, then keep it somewhere safe for when you're older. Then, find out why people love being teenagers so much. For instance; more freedom to hang out with friends; more interesting hobbies; wider social groups; interesting work within some pretty awesome hours... and the holidays! (Have you ever heard of a non-teacher-adult who got 10 weeks off their job every year?!) And not every teenager either wants or does have sex. Plenty wait for the right time/person or marriage to get involved in that. (Which is a very smart decision!)
Not everything about being a teenager sucks. I just wish I'd realised what I had before I let it get away from me!!!!!!!
Good luck. Have fun!!! And don't forget to enjoy the ride... Coz whether you want it or not... It's there. =)
';Ah! my boy. Into every life a little rain must fall. '; You can avoid life's torrential downpour if you get into intensive therapy NOW%26gt;
You don't have to ';grow up'; even though you're turning 14. Heck I'm still a kid at almost 26. Follow your own pace and do what YOU enjoy. As for sex ... you don't have to start thinking about that for another 5 (or 15) years if you don't want to.
Relax and enjoy YOUR life. You don't have to try to avoid OR pressure yourself into anything.
Another thing ... it's normal and OK to hate something one day and love it the next.eye
I've used the hateness method but somehow the love feeling creeped slowly into my heart..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
I am sorry to tell you that becoming a teenager is something you can't stop. It happens and you have to understand that you can be a teenager without having sex or drinking or smoking or doing drugs..Those are choices you have to make as you grow up. Of course you are going to have peer pressure,but you can be strong and tell them you don't believe in underage sex and drinking or smoking or drugs of any kind. There is nothing wrong with being a teenager, just make informed decisions about things. Don't do something because everyone else is! You will be fine if you are always true to your own beliefs and listen to yourself and not the pressures from kids at school.. Parents do understand about being a teenager too, they were teenagers once. Talk to them about how you are feeling, they may have somethings to tell you that you never thought of.. Enjoy teen life and may God bless you..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
You may not be able to control the attraction to the opposite sex or other things teens like but there are many things you CAN control like if and when you have sex....the people you hang out with...the stuff you do in your spare time. Find other teens with similar attitudes and ideas and you can give each other support. As far as sex goes.....there no certain time that has to happen. You can wait forever if you want to. No one should pressure you into it. Stand your ground and just be yourself. If people bully or pressure you they aren't good people to hang around with. Enjoy this time while you can because it goes by quickly and you can't get these years back again so don't let it slip away because of fear. Try to enjoy something in each day. Let the teen things happen naturally. Don't try to suppress them you'll drive yourself crazy. just stay in control and you'll be fine. Surround yourself with people that care about you. Good luck in your life.
Just because you are becoming a teenager doesn't mean you can't still be a kid. Don't rush growing up so fast and enjoy thos teenage years. The feeling that go along with being a teenager are normal and I don't think that you can stop them. just deal with them the best of your ability
There's no law that says you have to have sex.
I think you're being silly, if the reason you hate music is because you think only teens love music.
I haven't been a teen for decades, and I've always loved music, from before teen years, and through them, and after.
Not liking music doesn't keep you a child.
There's no way to stay a child.
Children grow, and eventually become adults. That's how it works.
But where you got all these ideas that you have to do this, that, or the other, just because you're a teen I don't know.
Avoiding the characteristics (as you see them -- they have nothing to do with being a teen, BTW) doesn't make you not be a teen.
But then you don't HAVE to have sex either, if that's all you're trying to avoid.
Eventually you probably will, but by then you won't hate the idea.
Why don't you just be who you are, and like what you like, and dislike what you dislike?
That makes a lot more sense than making up a bunch of silly rules for oneself, just because you don't understand what it means to grow up.
stick to your books, that will help and you will also get good grade. besides before you know it you will be all those things you hate. it happens
I'm going to be an adult. I'm 20 in 18 days. Goodbye, teenagehood!
I too have tried the hateness method. I hate people who work. I hate work. I hate responsibility. I sleep in all day (then wonder why I'm tired and grumpy and vitamin D deprived).
But somehow, adult-ness has crept up on me. I'm politically active; I follow the news; I'm getting a car and a job; and I've decided idiots who sleep all day for no reason deserve their depression. I'm also the main chef/cleaner/account keeper for my house (in which I am the youngest member); and I even do the grocery shopping!
Somehow, life sneaks these things up on you.
So being a kid was fun. Write about it. Get all the things you love about being a kid down on paper, then keep it somewhere safe for when you're older. Then, find out why people love being teenagers so much. For instance; more freedom to hang out with friends; more interesting hobbies; wider social groups; interesting work within some pretty awesome hours... and the holidays! (Have you ever heard of a non-teacher-adult who got 10 weeks off their job every year?!) And not every teenager either wants or does have sex. Plenty wait for the right time/person or marriage to get involved in that. (Which is a very smart decision!)
Not everything about being a teenager sucks. I just wish I'd realised what I had before I let it get away from me!!!!!!!
Good luck. Have fun!!! And don't forget to enjoy the ride... Coz whether you want it or not... It's there. =)
';Ah! my boy. Into every life a little rain must fall. '; You can avoid life's torrential downpour if you get into intensive therapy NOW%26gt;
You don't have to ';grow up'; even though you're turning 14. Heck I'm still a kid at almost 26. Follow your own pace and do what YOU enjoy. As for sex ... you don't have to start thinking about that for another 5 (or 15) years if you don't want to.
Relax and enjoy YOUR life. You don't have to try to avoid OR pressure yourself into anything.
Another thing ... it's normal and OK to hate something one day and love it the next.
Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
We are buying a computer for my nephew who's 17 and still in school. I'd like to get him a laptop as I have a Compaq Presario C727US and am having good luck with it. I'm not tech-savvy -- I seek advice whether to purchase a new computer or will a used one be adequate? And can we get away with no having a service agreement, or can you get one for a used laptop? Have until October 1st to do this. I'd really appreciate all and any advices as I may as well be buying a car I have no knowledge to defend myself with -- hoping to hear from the masked answerers, I remain, sincerely yours, Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
As a rule, I don't generally advise people to purchase a laptop unless they have a real need for it. You usually pay more, get less, and they are not user-friendly and more expensive when it comes to upgrading or replacing bad parts.
Since your nephew is in school, I'm assuming he'll use it for schoolwork, and that's a real need. I saw a pretty decent laptop on tigerdirect.com for $450 recently. Computer Shopper August 2008 issue also has an article on ';how to shop for a laptop.'; Check out www.computershopper.com/laptops for full reviews.
Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
first of all how much u willing to spend? does he play games on the computer? if yes than buy him a desktop not a laptop.
i would buy him a new computer as the technologies changes very fast. so he wont be upset within few months.
As a rule, I don't generally advise people to purchase a laptop unless they have a real need for it. You usually pay more, get less, and they are not user-friendly and more expensive when it comes to upgrading or replacing bad parts.
Since your nephew is in school, I'm assuming he'll use it for schoolwork, and that's a real need. I saw a pretty decent laptop on tigerdirect.com for $450 recently. Computer Shopper August 2008 issue also has an article on ';how to shop for a laptop.'; Check out www.computershopper.com/laptops for full reviews.
Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
first of all how much u willing to spend? does he play games on the computer? if yes than buy him a desktop not a laptop.
i would buy him a new computer as the technologies changes very fast. so he wont be upset within few months.
What advice would you give to a teenager and young adult who is looking for a seasonal summer job?
The months of May through August is a time where many teenagers and young adults who are in college will be looking for summer jobs. Although many will apply for many different season jobs which include bagging groceries, cashering, working in clothing stores, and working in recreation. Although the job market will look good for some markets, it might look bleak at other markets.
What kind of advice would you give to a teenager and young adult who is looking for a summer job between March and August?What advice would you give to a teenager and young adult who is looking for a seasonal summer job?
Usually your city or county will have a Summer Youth Employment Program. If they don't you can try the career office at school and, of course, the malls.and other shops.
For college students, they best thing to do is go to the office of your major, and see if they have any summer internships available. That way, you can kill 2 birds with one stone - have a job PLUS get experience and satisfy your internship requirement.What advice would you give to a teenager and young adult who is looking for a seasonal summer job?
try below -
http://hubpages.com/_coollokesh/hub/Thre鈥?/a>
you cud be working from comfort of your home !!!
Usually the city will hire park and rec helpers, the jobs are listed on the city's website. They pay is usually minimal, but are good summer jobs.
Research jobs that use skills that you have (minimize on-the-job training)
Find jobs that actually match your interests - if you are interested in reading, find out if the local library uses volunteers or needs extra staff to help with the summer reading program, or if you like to swim, find out if the local pool needs any lifeguards.
Go to snagajob.com. They will show you part time/hourly jobs which are perfect for teenagers and college students. The local community center is also a good idea if they like working with children. Camp Counselor or Junior Counselor.
Look into the program called INROADS.Org. They set up summer internships with in corporations. By the time your student graduates, they might be offered a job with that company.
Marquees.
There are plenty of companies... I work for one myself.
Theres about 60 hours in some weeks it gets you really fit and tanned... æ‹¢8hr...
What kind of advice would you give to a teenager and young adult who is looking for a summer job between March and August?What advice would you give to a teenager and young adult who is looking for a seasonal summer job?
Usually your city or county will have a Summer Youth Employment Program. If they don't you can try the career office at school and, of course, the malls.and other shops.
For college students, they best thing to do is go to the office of your major, and see if they have any summer internships available. That way, you can kill 2 birds with one stone - have a job PLUS get experience and satisfy your internship requirement.What advice would you give to a teenager and young adult who is looking for a seasonal summer job?
try below -
http://hubpages.com/_coollokesh/hub/Thre鈥?/a>
you cud be working from comfort of your home !!!
Usually the city will hire park and rec helpers, the jobs are listed on the city's website. They pay is usually minimal, but are good summer jobs.
Research jobs that use skills that you have (minimize on-the-job training)
Find jobs that actually match your interests - if you are interested in reading, find out if the local library uses volunteers or needs extra staff to help with the summer reading program, or if you like to swim, find out if the local pool needs any lifeguards.
Go to snagajob.com. They will show you part time/hourly jobs which are perfect for teenagers and college students. The local community center is also a good idea if they like working with children. Camp Counselor or Junior Counselor.
Look into the program called INROADS.Org. They set up summer internships with in corporations. By the time your student graduates, they might be offered a job with that company.
Marquees.
There are plenty of companies... I work for one myself.
Theres about 60 hours in some weeks it gets you really fit and tanned... æ‹¢8hr...
Advice about a program to supervise teenager?
I have a teenager witch is 14 years. She recently have been extra active chatting on the computer and mobile phone talking to a boy. She has no pictures. Lately the boy witch comes from another city have been in our neighborhood but can never come to our place. There are several things about the way he is writing that make me wonder. it is to adult way to write. She has given away her address against my advice to. Hopefully my concern is misplaced.
I don't want to alienate my daughter either. So the perfect thing would be a program witch can pick up certain words or similar. and maybe get them sent to me by e-mail. Can anyone recommend a solution witch is acceptable for both parents and daughter?Advice about a program to supervise teenager?
Instead of buying a software program to spy on her, tell
her that you know about this guy and you want the truth
about what is going on now.
Explain to her that you know he is in town, and you want
to know his name, age, and what city he is from.
Tell her that if she takes off with him that you will call the
police.
Make sure that she knows that you are afraid for her safety.
If she refuses to tell you anything..make her give you her password
for the computer. Get all of the information regarding this person
and then close her account.
Make sure you find out his information because if she runs away with
him to another city you are going to need to find her.
I am worried about his age since he traveled from another city.
Best wishesAdvice about a program to supervise teenager?
I don't think you got the idea Lisa G. Even if you are thinking of my daughters best. I don't want or have time to go through all her Internet activities. that's why I want to have maybe certain words or similar. I was more worried about unexperienced girl with experienced child abuser.
you don't need to buy anything. You just need to tell her that her internet time is now monitored and she may not be on it without an adult sitting right next to her. Make sure you have her passwords and check her email (and trash) regularly.
A couple of good examples of recording software include WebWatcher and eBlaster. These spying software programs cost around $100. WebWatcher records as well as allows parents to block certain websites etc. Other monitoring software includes Spector Pro, IamBigBrother, Golden Eye, SpyAgent, and Invisible Keylogger.
Different monitoring software records different things. For example, monitoring software may record web surfing, chats and instant messaging, keystrokes, and file transfers. A parent should review the software to make sure that it records the things they want monitored.
Each type of monitoring software may monitor certain types of emails only. So if a child has a hotmail account, but the software only monitor's outlook, then the particular program may not work for the family. Also, a parent should make sure that the software they get can log the particular type of instant messaging the child uses.
As for the mobile software that monitors sms messages : http://cellphoneforums.net/mobile-phone-…
and teach her not to give out personal info.
I don't want to alienate my daughter either. So the perfect thing would be a program witch can pick up certain words or similar. and maybe get them sent to me by e-mail. Can anyone recommend a solution witch is acceptable for both parents and daughter?Advice about a program to supervise teenager?
Instead of buying a software program to spy on her, tell
her that you know about this guy and you want the truth
about what is going on now.
Explain to her that you know he is in town, and you want
to know his name, age, and what city he is from.
Tell her that if she takes off with him that you will call the
police.
Make sure that she knows that you are afraid for her safety.
If she refuses to tell you anything..make her give you her password
for the computer. Get all of the information regarding this person
and then close her account.
Make sure you find out his information because if she runs away with
him to another city you are going to need to find her.
I am worried about his age since he traveled from another city.
Best wishesAdvice about a program to supervise teenager?
I don't think you got the idea Lisa G. Even if you are thinking of my daughters best. I don't want or have time to go through all her Internet activities. that's why I want to have maybe certain words or similar. I was more worried about unexperienced girl with experienced child abuser.
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you don't need to buy anything. You just need to tell her that her internet time is now monitored and she may not be on it without an adult sitting right next to her. Make sure you have her passwords and check her email (and trash) regularly.
A couple of good examples of recording software include WebWatcher and eBlaster. These spying software programs cost around $100. WebWatcher records as well as allows parents to block certain websites etc. Other monitoring software includes Spector Pro, IamBigBrother, Golden Eye, SpyAgent, and Invisible Keylogger.
Different monitoring software records different things. For example, monitoring software may record web surfing, chats and instant messaging, keystrokes, and file transfers. A parent should review the software to make sure that it records the things they want monitored.
Each type of monitoring software may monitor certain types of emails only. So if a child has a hotmail account, but the software only monitor's outlook, then the particular program may not work for the family. Also, a parent should make sure that the software they get can log the particular type of instant messaging the child uses.
As for the mobile software that monitors sms messages : http://cellphoneforums.net/mobile-phone-…
and teach her not to give out personal info.
Advice on looks for the average teenager?
Hi guys,
Im about to ask probably the most common question ever, so bare with me:)
Ive had a confidence issue for years and it's resulted in me not having a serious/proper relationship with a girl yet. Im the type who always thinks ';Oh I dont want to ask her because I dont think she thinks im good looking, and itl ruin our friendship';.
I know that I have a great personality and I make people laugh, im also very trustworthy and people can have a proper conversation with me too. It's just my looks that I always get depressed about and it really gets me down, as I always think the girl wont like the way I look. I know this probably sounds pretty pathetic but could I please have your opinions on my looks? here's a link to my picture - http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1229378650%26amp;ref=profile
and please dont just tell me I should ask her as I have a good personality, because we all know its not all down to that.
Im 16 btw :)
Thanks is advance.Advice on looks for the average teenager?
wow, I think you're quite cute.
And even if you weren't, your personality sounds attractive. Go for what you want, life is too short.Advice on looks for the average teenager?
you u look good just ask her if she finks u lookk gd thenn u will no x
I came in here prepared to call you an ugly ***, I'm not someone who's gonna tell everyone their pretty on Yahoo Answers but you look fine, definitely not ugly. You're no beauty queen, but definitely not ugly, but I think trying a new hairstyle would be good, working out too since you're pretty skinny.
You sound like the guy version of me:) I know it's difficult and I'm trying to take my own advice too but what you need is a change of attitude. I know its not that simple and you can't just change, but just try and stop thinking just about the way you look, girls are very attracted to funny guys more than the really good looking ones. And try not to get depressed about it, you are definitely not unattractive, you just feel it. So start by smiling at her and see if she smiles back, just build up from there to show her you like her, if she responds well then ask her out.
get yourself a ton of white tshirts to wear with your jeans,
gel your hair forward and spike just the front,
and act confident, if you pretend your confident for long enough you start to beleive it, and thats where confidence comes from!
i was sooooo shy in school, got sick of being overlooked, started acting confident, like i liked the way i look, and now, im realy happy with the way i look,
i have pretty high confidence, and get pleanty of attention!
works! trust me!
You have no need to worry about your looks!!!!
I am 17yrs old and you look nice - if i was rating i would say 8/10 and you look your age maybe even a little older....
So you really shouldn't worry....your right about the personality thing...the first thing everyone looks at whatever your age is your looks....
But you've got nothing to worry about.....but if you keep thinking your not good looking girls will notice this....i bet whoever you ask she will say yes!!
Good-luck
log in to fb first then u can see. hahah. tried hard to see pic. anw, u re not ugly! come on! who do u think is good looking then. agree that u re skinny. just do some push ups and swimming. and really, i m a girl, and i like confident and sweet guys who have guts. so build up ur confidence, now that u know u re not ugly.
link dont work but you will gradually gain confidence the thing is to act confident even though your not, it works and people will like what they see, as for a look go with what you like, dont follow everyone else thats boring :)
I wasnt expecting what i saw when i clicked that link. i honestly think your quite attractive, nice eyes especially. And u look a little older than 16 which is good so u dont look like a stupid kid or anything. The best way is to develope a friendship with a girl a good friendship maybe even become best friends, it'll take a while but if your not best friends then the relationship can never work. it just needs to get to the point where they see you as beautiful fullstop just generally. Even though you dont think so you are NOT a bad looking guy and once you've proven all those things you said about your self to them and make them feel like are a true friend (without any stupid flirting because that will spoil it) they'll feel you are definatley good boyfriend material and hopefully what they've been looking for for a while. And avoid girls who have just coe out of relationships whether they're happy or sad about it, ou'll probs be the rebound guy. Make them think 'wow this guy would make such a wonderful boyfriend' :) x good luck
What you worried about.. your not ugly. Confidence attracts a girl so believe that your hot and the girls will come swarming.
Yay! the link works!
Anyway, I wasn't expecting what I saw. Most of the people here who feel 'insecure' have genuine reason to be (i.e. they lack certain physical qualities...i.e. they're ugly). from what I can see, you seem to be able to dress just fine, your face shape is nice. I think you'd be better with longer hair though...
You're fine. Although a smile would be good. :-)
Im about to ask probably the most common question ever, so bare with me:)
Ive had a confidence issue for years and it's resulted in me not having a serious/proper relationship with a girl yet. Im the type who always thinks ';Oh I dont want to ask her because I dont think she thinks im good looking, and itl ruin our friendship';.
I know that I have a great personality and I make people laugh, im also very trustworthy and people can have a proper conversation with me too. It's just my looks that I always get depressed about and it really gets me down, as I always think the girl wont like the way I look. I know this probably sounds pretty pathetic but could I please have your opinions on my looks? here's a link to my picture - http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1229378650%26amp;ref=profile
and please dont just tell me I should ask her as I have a good personality, because we all know its not all down to that.
Im 16 btw :)
Thanks is advance.Advice on looks for the average teenager?
wow, I think you're quite cute.
And even if you weren't, your personality sounds attractive. Go for what you want, life is too short.Advice on looks for the average teenager?
you u look good just ask her if she finks u lookk gd thenn u will no x
I came in here prepared to call you an ugly ***, I'm not someone who's gonna tell everyone their pretty on Yahoo Answers but you look fine, definitely not ugly. You're no beauty queen, but definitely not ugly, but I think trying a new hairstyle would be good, working out too since you're pretty skinny.
You sound like the guy version of me:) I know it's difficult and I'm trying to take my own advice too but what you need is a change of attitude. I know its not that simple and you can't just change, but just try and stop thinking just about the way you look, girls are very attracted to funny guys more than the really good looking ones. And try not to get depressed about it, you are definitely not unattractive, you just feel it. So start by smiling at her and see if she smiles back, just build up from there to show her you like her, if she responds well then ask her out.
get yourself a ton of white tshirts to wear with your jeans,
gel your hair forward and spike just the front,
and act confident, if you pretend your confident for long enough you start to beleive it, and thats where confidence comes from!
i was sooooo shy in school, got sick of being overlooked, started acting confident, like i liked the way i look, and now, im realy happy with the way i look,
i have pretty high confidence, and get pleanty of attention!
works! trust me!
You have no need to worry about your looks!!!!
I am 17yrs old and you look nice - if i was rating i would say 8/10 and you look your age maybe even a little older....
So you really shouldn't worry....your right about the personality thing...the first thing everyone looks at whatever your age is your looks....
But you've got nothing to worry about.....but if you keep thinking your not good looking girls will notice this....i bet whoever you ask she will say yes!!
Good-luck
log in to fb first then u can see. hahah. tried hard to see pic. anw, u re not ugly! come on! who do u think is good looking then. agree that u re skinny. just do some push ups and swimming. and really, i m a girl, and i like confident and sweet guys who have guts. so build up ur confidence, now that u know u re not ugly.
link dont work but you will gradually gain confidence the thing is to act confident even though your not, it works and people will like what they see, as for a look go with what you like, dont follow everyone else thats boring :)
I wasnt expecting what i saw when i clicked that link. i honestly think your quite attractive, nice eyes especially. And u look a little older than 16 which is good so u dont look like a stupid kid or anything. The best way is to develope a friendship with a girl a good friendship maybe even become best friends, it'll take a while but if your not best friends then the relationship can never work. it just needs to get to the point where they see you as beautiful fullstop just generally. Even though you dont think so you are NOT a bad looking guy and once you've proven all those things you said about your self to them and make them feel like are a true friend (without any stupid flirting because that will spoil it) they'll feel you are definatley good boyfriend material and hopefully what they've been looking for for a while. And avoid girls who have just coe out of relationships whether they're happy or sad about it, ou'll probs be the rebound guy. Make them think 'wow this guy would make such a wonderful boyfriend' :) x good luck
What you worried about.. your not ugly. Confidence attracts a girl so believe that your hot and the girls will come swarming.
Yay! the link works!
Anyway, I wasn't expecting what I saw. Most of the people here who feel 'insecure' have genuine reason to be (i.e. they lack certain physical qualities...i.e. they're ugly). from what I can see, you seem to be able to dress just fine, your face shape is nice. I think you'd be better with longer hair though...
You're fine. Although a smile would be good. :-)
Any advices of how to deal with a pre-teenager girl??
She is getting an agresive, hostil atitud specially with her big sister (me) haha and i would like to know how can i get to her without arguing, or without exxpresing the wrong message to her .......i`ll really apreciate any advice thanx!Any advices of how to deal with a pre-teenager girl??
Since you have an older daughter, you've obviously survived this time in a child's life once. I realize, however, that each of our kids can respond differently to life changes so it might've been different with the older girl. Your younger daughter is experiencing a barrage of stuff right now--from hormones and nearing the onset of menstruation to middle school and all that entails. The challenge for you, when she's being grouchy and giving you attitude, is to not get grouchy and impatient with her. She needs to be reminded that you really do understand some of what she's experiencing and really want to help her sort out what's causing her to be so negative and work through it or at least talk about it and know you care. It's also imperative, however, that she is reminded that you are still her mother and that mean and disrespectful behavior will not be tolerated and there will be consequences(no phone, no computer no TV, no social life) if she chooses to treat her family poorly. Even with all the changes, our kids still need to know we're there for them and we love them and are wanting to help them grow into strong, caring, capable adults. I would also suggest that you set aside some time for just you and your daughter to do something fun--shopping for new earrings, getting a pedicure together, going to the bookstore--just a girl's day for the two of you. Stay strong and be patient and know it will get easier--I promise. Take care.Any advices of how to deal with a pre-teenager girl??
Well she's growing up, I'm sure she'll grow out of it. Just make sure she know you're there for her and I'm sure things will change. Just don't start being aggresive with her because she'll only become worse. Best of Luck.
Iam 12 and I think you should give her some space because if she has hormones like me she is going to get even crazier
Get her a therapist.
Since you have an older daughter, you've obviously survived this time in a child's life once. I realize, however, that each of our kids can respond differently to life changes so it might've been different with the older girl. Your younger daughter is experiencing a barrage of stuff right now--from hormones and nearing the onset of menstruation to middle school and all that entails. The challenge for you, when she's being grouchy and giving you attitude, is to not get grouchy and impatient with her. She needs to be reminded that you really do understand some of what she's experiencing and really want to help her sort out what's causing her to be so negative and work through it or at least talk about it and know you care. It's also imperative, however, that she is reminded that you are still her mother and that mean and disrespectful behavior will not be tolerated and there will be consequences(no phone, no computer no TV, no social life) if she chooses to treat her family poorly. Even with all the changes, our kids still need to know we're there for them and we love them and are wanting to help them grow into strong, caring, capable adults. I would also suggest that you set aside some time for just you and your daughter to do something fun--shopping for new earrings, getting a pedicure together, going to the bookstore--just a girl's day for the two of you. Stay strong and be patient and know it will get easier--I promise. Take care.Any advices of how to deal with a pre-teenager girl??
Well she's growing up, I'm sure she'll grow out of it. Just make sure she know you're there for her and I'm sure things will change. Just don't start being aggresive with her because she'll only become worse. Best of Luck.
Iam 12 and I think you should give her some space because if she has hormones like me she is going to get even crazier
Get her a therapist.
I'm a teenager in need of your advices, please?
okay..i'm becoming seriously suicidal and im asking here in yahoo answers because of course you cant see me so i wont be embarrassed to share my story..please dont delete this because i'm simply asking for your thoughts on my case
i swear it's very short:
http://suicideproject.org/2009/10/why-i-want-to-leave-this-world/
title of blog is ';Why I want to leave this world';I'm a teenager in need of your advices, please?
it seems that your hatred towards the world is really focused on God. Maybe, for a change of pace, a different view on the world, you could stop looking to God. I am not an atheist, but I don't really believe in one solid religion. Your image about the business, and God as the supervisor, I feel is a little skewed. Only one person is in charge of your life, and it's not God. It's you. You say you know you can be successful, and you're right. Anyone can be successful. The thing you're wrong about is that even as a successful person you would still ';belong to God's world.'; You don't have to belong to God. you can go your own way, no one will stop you. You can go and do the things that make you happy and have a good and full life. God doesn't have to be in charge of you. As for the insecurities, it's really a simple process to get over them. Good friends and good family connections, and if necessary, therapy or counseling, will help get your self esteem and your mood up at the place you want it to be. Don't worry. You can do this, you can change your life. The only person who has power over you is you.I'm a teenager in need of your advices, please?
this may be a stupid idea, but when i was depressed about a year ago there was a song that told me that im not alone, rate this down if ya dont like it i dont mind but just listen to the words.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SQg-TzmAr0
and think about all the things that make you, you and one last thing!! Dont Forget You Are Never Alone!!!
It sounds like a lot of your issues are surrounding God, I'd recommend looking up Irenaeun theodicy if you have some spare time, a lot of Christians think it's quite helpful and perhaps going to see a counselor to sort out your feelings on some issues might be an idea?
Best of luck!
x
My advice would be, try asking God to help you through the situation. Don't try to go through it on your own. I had the same problem last year, until I finally asked God to help me with my situation. I didn't see the meaning of life. I was always judged and people used me alot. Let me know if you wanna talk more about it. My e-mail address is souls1@rocketmail.com. Is still face this problem sometimes.
First let me say I'm not currently an active Christian but I have no position either way, I think people should make up their own mind. So without asking you to believe in Christianity as a whole the thing that came to mind in reading what you wrote is the idea of being ';in the world but not of it.'; I think you can get a lot out of the merits of this simple idea regardless of how you feel about religion and Christianity. The fact is, so many people in the world go through their life unaware and don't give much thought to the concerns you've
brought up and don't care much if they do think about it, so it's challenging to live in this world to say the least. But being here does not mean you are -of- this world, you don't have to live the way most people live and be motivated by self interest alone, it's clear you already have an appreciation of this. But of course because most people either rather be distracted or want to check out, it's kind of hard to find any kind of support this way - but it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. And in fact, you are not as powerless as you may feel, although of course it can be depressing to see all the things that go on.
Obviously there is no quick easy answer to something like this, but one of the things you mentioned is miracles that would make you stay. They exist, not anything supernatural but in the form of people that care, I mean really care. Actually, you're one of them. If there were nobody like you I think maybe I wouldn't stay, or I wouldn't care enough to bother to interact with people in the world. So don't think you're so helpless, because you really are NOT alone, not because you are depressed or because people say that in the usual cliche' way, but because even though there are not that many people who care there are some.
By the way one song that I find really captures the feeling is Home by Dishwalla, here's a link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WgzR9wH3e鈥?/a>eye
i swear it's very short:
http://suicideproject.org/2009/10/why-i-want-to-leave-this-world/
title of blog is ';Why I want to leave this world';I'm a teenager in need of your advices, please?
it seems that your hatred towards the world is really focused on God. Maybe, for a change of pace, a different view on the world, you could stop looking to God. I am not an atheist, but I don't really believe in one solid religion. Your image about the business, and God as the supervisor, I feel is a little skewed. Only one person is in charge of your life, and it's not God. It's you. You say you know you can be successful, and you're right. Anyone can be successful. The thing you're wrong about is that even as a successful person you would still ';belong to God's world.'; You don't have to belong to God. you can go your own way, no one will stop you. You can go and do the things that make you happy and have a good and full life. God doesn't have to be in charge of you. As for the insecurities, it's really a simple process to get over them. Good friends and good family connections, and if necessary, therapy or counseling, will help get your self esteem and your mood up at the place you want it to be. Don't worry. You can do this, you can change your life. The only person who has power over you is you.I'm a teenager in need of your advices, please?
this may be a stupid idea, but when i was depressed about a year ago there was a song that told me that im not alone, rate this down if ya dont like it i dont mind but just listen to the words.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SQg-TzmAr0
and think about all the things that make you, you and one last thing!! Dont Forget You Are Never Alone!!!
It sounds like a lot of your issues are surrounding God, I'd recommend looking up Irenaeun theodicy if you have some spare time, a lot of Christians think it's quite helpful and perhaps going to see a counselor to sort out your feelings on some issues might be an idea?
Best of luck!
x
My advice would be, try asking God to help you through the situation. Don't try to go through it on your own. I had the same problem last year, until I finally asked God to help me with my situation. I didn't see the meaning of life. I was always judged and people used me alot. Let me know if you wanna talk more about it. My e-mail address is souls1@rocketmail.com. Is still face this problem sometimes.
First let me say I'm not currently an active Christian but I have no position either way, I think people should make up their own mind. So without asking you to believe in Christianity as a whole the thing that came to mind in reading what you wrote is the idea of being ';in the world but not of it.'; I think you can get a lot out of the merits of this simple idea regardless of how you feel about religion and Christianity. The fact is, so many people in the world go through their life unaware and don't give much thought to the concerns you've
brought up and don't care much if they do think about it, so it's challenging to live in this world to say the least. But being here does not mean you are -of- this world, you don't have to live the way most people live and be motivated by self interest alone, it's clear you already have an appreciation of this. But of course because most people either rather be distracted or want to check out, it's kind of hard to find any kind of support this way - but it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. And in fact, you are not as powerless as you may feel, although of course it can be depressing to see all the things that go on.
Obviously there is no quick easy answer to something like this, but one of the things you mentioned is miracles that would make you stay. They exist, not anything supernatural but in the form of people that care, I mean really care. Actually, you're one of them. If there were nobody like you I think maybe I wouldn't stay, or I wouldn't care enough to bother to interact with people in the world. So don't think you're so helpless, because you really are NOT alone, not because you are depressed or because people say that in the usual cliche' way, but because even though there are not that many people who care there are some.
By the way one song that I find really captures the feeling is Home by Dishwalla, here's a link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WgzR9wH3e鈥?/a>
Hi. I wanted to ask here or get some advice on what to do about my mother. I am 18 yr old teenager (F)?
Ever since I was a little kid I can remember my mom being like this it has gotten better but it never will be great.She has 3 kids. 2 boys %26amp; me. I feel like she takes her anger out on me the most I have no idea why me %26amp; my father. None of my brothers or me were any ';real'; trouble. We behaved and were disciplined (sometimes with words other times) None of my siblings got into drugs or gangs or were ';wild'; I help her out the most because she says its the ';womans job'; I'm the quiet type you can say %26amp; do what my parents tell me(yes I have done some things nothing major. Just little things like white lies haha)
My mom and dad too work a lot mostly to pay bills and mortgage(which they are trying to lower so it will be easier on them;we live with relatives who help) My brother %26amp; I don't ask for things like some kids that want the latest newest expensive things. If they are high priced it would be for school or for work its very rare we get something we really really want. They got me a car because everyone(family %26amp; friends) said I deserved it bec of graduation being a nice, decent, behaved quiet kid hah Which I will be using for work not for hanging out with friends. My mom complains a lot (to everyone one on a daily basis) that she works a lot %26amp; that is sick(she has diabetes which she doesn't take care of like she should and everyone in the family const tells her to take her meds eat better %26amp; a bad back that she can't do anything about because if she does it could be worse)
I understand that she works a lot so does my dad but he doesnt complain even if he is tired he won't take his anger out hes never in a bad mood like she is. She can't get a better job bec she didn't even go to middle school or high school. Sometimes I don't even want to talk to her I always look how she looks like when she comes home from work to see if shes in a bad mood so I try to avoid her but still help her out just not talk as much. She yells sometimes too. I guess thats why my little brother is always in his room so he won't get yelled at. Surprisingly we didn't get her bad mood we don't get mad at every little thing. I want to know from someone that understands or went through something similar to give me some advice on what to do.
I still love her but sometimes I wish she could change. I talk to her and everything but this her behavior/mood sometimes gets to me like today. You can't go through life being mad all the time. I will never treat my kids like she treated us. If I'm ever in a bad mood I don't take it out on others I usually go to my room listen to music or draw or even cry sometimes.
Thank youHi. I wanted to ask here or get some advice on what to do about my mother. I am 18 yr old teenager (F)?
I think you should consider moving out and getting a place of your own. This will change how your mother treats you because if she starts to make you feel bad you can just go home. Once she realizes you can control the situation when she becomes negative she will be nicer to you.Hi. I wanted to ask here or get some advice on what to do about my mother. I am 18 yr old teenager (F)?
you shouldn't judge someone by the way they treat you, you don't know what they've been through... on the other hand, you could have a messed up person in your hands, so it's really a toss up.
You are going to find as you venture out into the ';adult world';, there are a group of folks that spend their whole lives ';bitching %26amp; complaining';. There are enough of them to start their own country. If it wasn't for that, they would have nothing to look forward to! They are like vampires, they can drain the energy right out of you. You can feel their presence when you walk in a room. The air is thin, as if the oxygen has been ';suck';out';! Then spin everyone up. They are the last (if at all) to understand that they are ';terrorizing the environment';. They believe the source of their happiness lies somewhere outside themselves or someone or something else is the cause. They want to share their bad mood with you. They believe every one around them should share in their misery! Experience their pain.
At some point in the future, when you have you own family, you'll run your household your way. Mom will put on her little show in your home one too many times and you'll set her straight!
';Mom, knock it off!'; The first time you tell her this, she'll go into her ';how offended she is'; drama!
I am surprised now that you haven't yet ';fired your own shot across her bow.';
I am not telling you to pick a fight or be disrespectful. I would imagine it isn't your personality. What I talking about is what's known as being assertive. Part of that is setting boundaries. Not allowing someone to attack your space and harmony. Especially, if you have done everything you could to get out of the line of fire. For example, if your mom cannot maintain a civil tone, then you may have to call her on it. Also, you are not her significant other or her therapist. Oh yes, if you start feeling bad inside, she pushing buttons (';getting under your skin';) . This behavior did not come as a result of her circumstances, this was probably done to her growing up, she learned this.
Does she do this ';crap'; in her workplace? Probably not! She probably is not even aware she's doing it. Your dad enables it. Meaning, that he ignores it and allows it to continue. It's amazing what people can get used to (or conditioned).
You ';kids'; have nothing to feel guilty about. I was reading your addl. comments. It's good you're getting out of there eventually.
As I was reading your posting I could almost remember certain feelings (emotional scares) from this ';conditioning'; when I was a teen.
I'm really sorry that you have such a heavy load to carry. That is hard. Your mom is just human and we humans are not perfect. It isn't right; but, she takes things out on the ones that she loves because they are safe to do this to. She knows that you will still love her, even when she pushes you away with her anger.
She probably will never change. You just can't spend you life expecting people to change...it usually doesn't happen. She seems to be burdened with poor health and probably is in a horrible job...if you think about it, you probably can understand why she is so miserable.
All you can do is try to understand why she does this. (It is not your fault %26amp; you do deserve better) Also, remember to never treat your kids this way. In just a few years, you will be able to make a choice about when you allow her into your life or when you stay away. Things will be better then.
You sound like a great daughter...you probably are your mom's best friend. She is very lucky to have you. Hang in there!
Its hard for some people to release their feelings in a way that wont effect others in the wrong way.
Some times to help some one change is hard.
She just needs some one to sit down and ask her how her day was and to talk about her for once and nothing else. She needs a release of her feelings because of her health and her feeling that every one else has what she wishes she had, ( a better life than what she has ), but she has every thing she needs and would ever want. She has you and her family who help look after things that she misses.
She is looking for more than just being there for others to rely on. She needs to talk about her feelings and get them out.
Her health can improve over time if the stress is released from her every day life. She adds to it by thinking about it a lot. Talking about it will cause her to stop thinking about it as much and soon it will be as though she needs only for some one to listen to her problems for a short time each day.
Your father should be doing this but some times he may forget that he is there for her as she is there for him. You should talk with him on this as well. He needs an out let for his problems too.
It is hard to help others in ways that will help them with out letting them know you are helping.
Some times the small things we do help more than the big things we do.
Asking this question is a step in a direction that will change the life's of your family.
GOD Bless and read proverbs in the Bible.
Start by asking her how her day was. Sit down and listen.
Then ask her how her back feels today.
Ask her if she thinks she should need a reminder now and then for her med's. You would be happy to help if you can.
Ask her if she has a hug that she could spare .
And please get your brothers in on this as well. Don't let them shy away from a problem that involves the family.
Let her know there is nothing that you could ever need that she could not give you, and give her a hug.
And always tell her you love her.
I also agree with most of what JD is saying. It could be as simple as showing her what she is doing to every one at home, and not when she is out at other places.
Keep trying , she's your Mom.
My mom and dad too work a lot mostly to pay bills and mortgage(which they are trying to lower so it will be easier on them;we live with relatives who help) My brother %26amp; I don't ask for things like some kids that want the latest newest expensive things. If they are high priced it would be for school or for work its very rare we get something we really really want. They got me a car because everyone(family %26amp; friends) said I deserved it bec of graduation being a nice, decent, behaved quiet kid hah Which I will be using for work not for hanging out with friends. My mom complains a lot (to everyone one on a daily basis) that she works a lot %26amp; that is sick(she has diabetes which she doesn't take care of like she should and everyone in the family const tells her to take her meds eat better %26amp; a bad back that she can't do anything about because if she does it could be worse)
I understand that she works a lot so does my dad but he doesnt complain even if he is tired he won't take his anger out hes never in a bad mood like she is. She can't get a better job bec she didn't even go to middle school or high school. Sometimes I don't even want to talk to her I always look how she looks like when she comes home from work to see if shes in a bad mood so I try to avoid her but still help her out just not talk as much. She yells sometimes too. I guess thats why my little brother is always in his room so he won't get yelled at. Surprisingly we didn't get her bad mood we don't get mad at every little thing. I want to know from someone that understands or went through something similar to give me some advice on what to do.
I still love her but sometimes I wish she could change. I talk to her and everything but this her behavior/mood sometimes gets to me like today. You can't go through life being mad all the time. I will never treat my kids like she treated us. If I'm ever in a bad mood I don't take it out on others I usually go to my room listen to music or draw or even cry sometimes.
Thank youHi. I wanted to ask here or get some advice on what to do about my mother. I am 18 yr old teenager (F)?
I think you should consider moving out and getting a place of your own. This will change how your mother treats you because if she starts to make you feel bad you can just go home. Once she realizes you can control the situation when she becomes negative she will be nicer to you.Hi. I wanted to ask here or get some advice on what to do about my mother. I am 18 yr old teenager (F)?
you shouldn't judge someone by the way they treat you, you don't know what they've been through... on the other hand, you could have a messed up person in your hands, so it's really a toss up.
You are going to find as you venture out into the ';adult world';, there are a group of folks that spend their whole lives ';bitching %26amp; complaining';. There are enough of them to start their own country. If it wasn't for that, they would have nothing to look forward to! They are like vampires, they can drain the energy right out of you. You can feel their presence when you walk in a room. The air is thin, as if the oxygen has been ';suck';out';! Then spin everyone up. They are the last (if at all) to understand that they are ';terrorizing the environment';. They believe the source of their happiness lies somewhere outside themselves or someone or something else is the cause. They want to share their bad mood with you. They believe every one around them should share in their misery! Experience their pain.
At some point in the future, when you have you own family, you'll run your household your way. Mom will put on her little show in your home one too many times and you'll set her straight!
';Mom, knock it off!'; The first time you tell her this, she'll go into her ';how offended she is'; drama!
I am surprised now that you haven't yet ';fired your own shot across her bow.';
I am not telling you to pick a fight or be disrespectful. I would imagine it isn't your personality. What I talking about is what's known as being assertive. Part of that is setting boundaries. Not allowing someone to attack your space and harmony. Especially, if you have done everything you could to get out of the line of fire. For example, if your mom cannot maintain a civil tone, then you may have to call her on it. Also, you are not her significant other or her therapist. Oh yes, if you start feeling bad inside, she pushing buttons (';getting under your skin';) . This behavior did not come as a result of her circumstances, this was probably done to her growing up, she learned this.
Does she do this ';crap'; in her workplace? Probably not! She probably is not even aware she's doing it. Your dad enables it. Meaning, that he ignores it and allows it to continue. It's amazing what people can get used to (or conditioned).
You ';kids'; have nothing to feel guilty about. I was reading your addl. comments. It's good you're getting out of there eventually.
As I was reading your posting I could almost remember certain feelings (emotional scares) from this ';conditioning'; when I was a teen.
I'm really sorry that you have such a heavy load to carry. That is hard. Your mom is just human and we humans are not perfect. It isn't right; but, she takes things out on the ones that she loves because they are safe to do this to. She knows that you will still love her, even when she pushes you away with her anger.
She probably will never change. You just can't spend you life expecting people to change...it usually doesn't happen. She seems to be burdened with poor health and probably is in a horrible job...if you think about it, you probably can understand why she is so miserable.
All you can do is try to understand why she does this. (It is not your fault %26amp; you do deserve better) Also, remember to never treat your kids this way. In just a few years, you will be able to make a choice about when you allow her into your life or when you stay away. Things will be better then.
You sound like a great daughter...you probably are your mom's best friend. She is very lucky to have you. Hang in there!
Its hard for some people to release their feelings in a way that wont effect others in the wrong way.
Some times to help some one change is hard.
She just needs some one to sit down and ask her how her day was and to talk about her for once and nothing else. She needs a release of her feelings because of her health and her feeling that every one else has what she wishes she had, ( a better life than what she has ), but she has every thing she needs and would ever want. She has you and her family who help look after things that she misses.
She is looking for more than just being there for others to rely on. She needs to talk about her feelings and get them out.
Her health can improve over time if the stress is released from her every day life. She adds to it by thinking about it a lot. Talking about it will cause her to stop thinking about it as much and soon it will be as though she needs only for some one to listen to her problems for a short time each day.
Your father should be doing this but some times he may forget that he is there for her as she is there for him. You should talk with him on this as well. He needs an out let for his problems too.
It is hard to help others in ways that will help them with out letting them know you are helping.
Some times the small things we do help more than the big things we do.
Asking this question is a step in a direction that will change the life's of your family.
GOD Bless and read proverbs in the Bible.
Start by asking her how her day was. Sit down and listen.
Then ask her how her back feels today.
Ask her if she thinks she should need a reminder now and then for her med's. You would be happy to help if you can.
Ask her if she has a hug that she could spare .
And please get your brothers in on this as well. Don't let them shy away from a problem that involves the family.
Let her know there is nothing that you could ever need that she could not give you, and give her a hug.
And always tell her you love her.
I also agree with most of what JD is saying. It could be as simple as showing her what she is doing to every one at home, and not when she is out at other places.
Keep trying , she's your Mom.
I am a very confused teenager who really needs help, is there anybody who can give me a little bit off advice?
I'm 15 turning 16, and I feel so depressed. When I was younger I was so happy I loved and adored my family and then my dad died... everything turned rubbish. I Hate my high school and I'm at my last year thank god! I am an average student achieving B's but I'm going to try much harder because I want to do something in my life which is high expected in a way. I've already talked to a therapist but she didn't help me in anyway, I have no idea what to do - I find it very hard to open up to talk to people and tell them how I feel because number 1. I don't know what to say and lastly I get so angry at everything... I honestly do feel like just ending everything - I want to be me when I was younger not someone who cries everyday - I also had my first kiss last summer with a boy I hardly knew (I've never had a boyfriend just wanted to see how kissing is like) and I felt like a total waste of space afterwards really disappointed in myself. I love the feeling off protection but I have no-one which provides that for me. I also love meeting new people but I feel so scared and insecure now to even talk or care about peopleI am a very confused teenager who really needs help, is there anybody who can give me a little bit off advice?
hi honey-ive been through all this myself-i had depression from when i was 14 and wasnt diagnosed until i was 18-it was really hard but somehow i managed-i actually spoke to the school nurse and even today shes one of my close friends-im 22 now :) if u cant spk 2 anyone maybe go to ur doctor? life is hard at times,i lost my grandad 2 years ago-i lived with him for 9 years so he was like a dad 2 me,and i never thought id feel happy again but time really does help-try focusing on good times u had with ur dad rather than the bad bits-i hope this helps,even just a teeny bit!!
mail me if u want someone to listen xxxI am a very confused teenager who really needs help, is there anybody who can give me a little bit off advice?
see another theripist you didnt click with that one get help a greveing time is needed but you must talk about your los . get help time will heal you
I'm 16 and I can honestly say that about 75% of what you're feeling is down to teenage hormones, the whole aspiring to be something good, depression, riding the emotional roller-coaster of ups and downs, feeling randomly angry at people, unable to open up, insecurity, fear, crying, wanting it to all be over. Also, everyone looks back on their childhood fondly because most of us were blissfully ignorant to what was going on around us.
You say that a therapist isn't helping you, but don't forget therapy is a two way street. You have to give it time and really try. Your dad passing must make this a million times worse and I have lost a lot of people in my life so I'm roughly aware of what that is like but I'm not going to pretend I know exactly how you feel on that aspect.
The only thing we can hope is that everything gets easier with time. I know it sounds bad now, I hate it myself. I know there is nothing I can say to you except you are not alone in feeling like this. That may not help you now and I know it didn't help me. But seriously the more you to talk to people our age the more you realize that we all feel the same even if it's not shown.
The first step is helping yourself you, it's hard to attract anyone or make friends when you don't like yourself firstly or when your fighting a battle with yourself. I think that therapy really does help but maybe you didn't have the right one. You have to be willing to talk to people. Maybe if you kept a journal it would be a way of expressing yourself then you could share the journal with the therapist. I think what you need now is someone you can trust, and someone that will listen to you. I am studying psychology right now so if you want to talk at all let me know and I will see what I can do about helping you with an outlet and getting over trust issues, as well as being insecure.
It's a very confusing time in your life.
Try keeping a journal, write a little something everyday. It may help to identify certain times, or things that make you feel worse. Then you can focus on how to change those things.
As for talking to new people that's hard to do for a slot of people. Try to notice people who seem shy. A lot of time they will be awesome people to get to know. Just start slowly. If they are wearing a band shirt, ask them what other types of music do they like. If you notice them drawing, talk to them about art.
hi honey-ive been through all this myself-i had depression from when i was 14 and wasnt diagnosed until i was 18-it was really hard but somehow i managed-i actually spoke to the school nurse and even today shes one of my close friends-im 22 now :) if u cant spk 2 anyone maybe go to ur doctor? life is hard at times,i lost my grandad 2 years ago-i lived with him for 9 years so he was like a dad 2 me,and i never thought id feel happy again but time really does help-try focusing on good times u had with ur dad rather than the bad bits-i hope this helps,even just a teeny bit!!
mail me if u want someone to listen xxxI am a very confused teenager who really needs help, is there anybody who can give me a little bit off advice?
see another theripist you didnt click with that one get help a greveing time is needed but you must talk about your los . get help time will heal you
I'm 16 and I can honestly say that about 75% of what you're feeling is down to teenage hormones, the whole aspiring to be something good, depression, riding the emotional roller-coaster of ups and downs, feeling randomly angry at people, unable to open up, insecurity, fear, crying, wanting it to all be over. Also, everyone looks back on their childhood fondly because most of us were blissfully ignorant to what was going on around us.
You say that a therapist isn't helping you, but don't forget therapy is a two way street. You have to give it time and really try. Your dad passing must make this a million times worse and I have lost a lot of people in my life so I'm roughly aware of what that is like but I'm not going to pretend I know exactly how you feel on that aspect.
The only thing we can hope is that everything gets easier with time. I know it sounds bad now, I hate it myself. I know there is nothing I can say to you except you are not alone in feeling like this. That may not help you now and I know it didn't help me. But seriously the more you to talk to people our age the more you realize that we all feel the same even if it's not shown.
The first step is helping yourself you, it's hard to attract anyone or make friends when you don't like yourself firstly or when your fighting a battle with yourself. I think that therapy really does help but maybe you didn't have the right one. You have to be willing to talk to people. Maybe if you kept a journal it would be a way of expressing yourself then you could share the journal with the therapist. I think what you need now is someone you can trust, and someone that will listen to you. I am studying psychology right now so if you want to talk at all let me know and I will see what I can do about helping you with an outlet and getting over trust issues, as well as being insecure.
It's a very confusing time in your life.
Try keeping a journal, write a little something everyday. It may help to identify certain times, or things that make you feel worse. Then you can focus on how to change those things.
As for talking to new people that's hard to do for a slot of people. Try to notice people who seem shy. A lot of time they will be awesome people to get to know. Just start slowly. If they are wearing a band shirt, ask them what other types of music do they like. If you notice them drawing, talk to them about art.
I don't mean to sound like a dramatic teenager but, this is kind of complicated? help? i just need some advice?
ok, here's the deal: a few months ago i really liked this guy, i mean really really liked, lets call him 'M'. He had said that he liked me to and we'd flirted and spent a bit of time together, he'd kissed me, etc. We weren't officially going out though because he said he didn't want to date right now because he just got out of a long relationship (2 yrs). It went on like this for a while and we had a night when we got a lot closer, but, the next day he told me he liked my best friend and now, they're going out. Its taken me a surprisingly long time to get over him, he was the first guy i opened myself up to.
Anyway, i recently got asked out by this other guy that i'd just started to like like and i said yes. Its been a few weeks now and to tell the truth, i'm unhappy. i can't work out why though. He's sweet, he really likes me, he's nice and gentlemanly, though, perhaps a little clingy.
The only negative is that he's not 'M'. I don't feel flushed around him. I don't get giddy and weak kneed around him. I don't hyperventilate when he blows on my neck. I don't wish to see him 24/7. I don't feel any of this with my boyfriend. p.s, this is my first boyfriend, i'm 16.
Does this mean my problem is that i still like my best friends boyfriend and my past 'almost-boyfriend'?
i could really use some help...I don't mean to sound like a dramatic teenager but, this is kind of complicated? help? i just need some advice?
';M'; sounds like a complete douche that just used U, maybe even 2 get closer 2 your friend...%26amp; he's dating your supposed ';best'; friend??? Doesn't sound like a ';best'; anything (%26amp; I'm assuming she knew U liked him I mean yous are bfs)
please please DO YOURSELF A FAVOR %26amp; get over him!!
4 him 2 do that 2 U %26amp; your best friend to do that 2 U too!!...wow they both sounds like jerx %26amp; deserve each other!!
%26amp; DO NOT LISTEN TO THE ADVICE Natcha GAVE! That does not work %26amp; she obviously has low self esteem...do what shes saying to do %26amp; you will look like a complete fool!I don't mean to sound like a dramatic teenager but, this is kind of complicated? help? i just need some advice?
[ ] Needs some advice
[ ] Needs help
[X] Needs to get laid
I know it is difficult but you have to just forget that M. He clearly cheated you, enjoyed a few days' kissing and cuddling and one night's sex. He told you on the very next day when you had fist time sex with him that he loves other girl, that itself shows that how mean and cheap minded he was.Before that he must have expressed his love to you, must have talked various sweet talks, made promises but at the same time avoided going out with you. because he must be going out with that other girl so he never wanted her or anybody else to know that he is in relations with you. This were all planned and after enjoying with you he left you. Not a trustworthy person at all. Do not go to him and beg for his love, he does not deserve your love. Just engage yoirself in other activities like music, art, dancing, literature...whatever you like and recahrge your life...Forget him, you will get the right person at the right time and be happy....
Some guys are just flirts, and make you feel things like that. It could just be the excitement of doing something that you know is wrong and not necessarily that you really really like him.
I think that you should give your current boyfriend a chance. Relax around him too, and learn to trust each other. This relationship can work, even though he's not M.
If you're his first girlfriend too, he might not know how to act. Give him a few pointers of nice things - but don't be forceful about it, or accuse him really harshly.
I would say, that from what you've said, that you probabely like your best friend's boyfriend. It seems like the truth, or at least what you beliee to be true.
Just remember that when you focus too much on something, you subconsciously push it away.
Good luck!
Wow that's hard.... i think you should go tell 'M' what you feel right now.. and if he turns you down and you still feel bad then try again and again to make him think that your really 'in love' with him. Guys like to change gf and stuff but girls don't right?? Tell him that!
Anyway, i recently got asked out by this other guy that i'd just started to like like and i said yes. Its been a few weeks now and to tell the truth, i'm unhappy. i can't work out why though. He's sweet, he really likes me, he's nice and gentlemanly, though, perhaps a little clingy.
The only negative is that he's not 'M'. I don't feel flushed around him. I don't get giddy and weak kneed around him. I don't hyperventilate when he blows on my neck. I don't wish to see him 24/7. I don't feel any of this with my boyfriend. p.s, this is my first boyfriend, i'm 16.
Does this mean my problem is that i still like my best friends boyfriend and my past 'almost-boyfriend'?
i could really use some help...I don't mean to sound like a dramatic teenager but, this is kind of complicated? help? i just need some advice?
';M'; sounds like a complete douche that just used U, maybe even 2 get closer 2 your friend...%26amp; he's dating your supposed ';best'; friend??? Doesn't sound like a ';best'; anything (%26amp; I'm assuming she knew U liked him I mean yous are bfs)
please please DO YOURSELF A FAVOR %26amp; get over him!!
4 him 2 do that 2 U %26amp; your best friend to do that 2 U too!!...wow they both sounds like jerx %26amp; deserve each other!!
%26amp; DO NOT LISTEN TO THE ADVICE Natcha GAVE! That does not work %26amp; she obviously has low self esteem...do what shes saying to do %26amp; you will look like a complete fool!I don't mean to sound like a dramatic teenager but, this is kind of complicated? help? i just need some advice?
[ ] Needs some advice
[ ] Needs help
[X] Needs to get laid
I know it is difficult but you have to just forget that M. He clearly cheated you, enjoyed a few days' kissing and cuddling and one night's sex. He told you on the very next day when you had fist time sex with him that he loves other girl, that itself shows that how mean and cheap minded he was.Before that he must have expressed his love to you, must have talked various sweet talks, made promises but at the same time avoided going out with you. because he must be going out with that other girl so he never wanted her or anybody else to know that he is in relations with you. This were all planned and after enjoying with you he left you. Not a trustworthy person at all. Do not go to him and beg for his love, he does not deserve your love. Just engage yoirself in other activities like music, art, dancing, literature...whatever you like and recahrge your life...Forget him, you will get the right person at the right time and be happy....
Some guys are just flirts, and make you feel things like that. It could just be the excitement of doing something that you know is wrong and not necessarily that you really really like him.
I think that you should give your current boyfriend a chance. Relax around him too, and learn to trust each other. This relationship can work, even though he's not M.
If you're his first girlfriend too, he might not know how to act. Give him a few pointers of nice things - but don't be forceful about it, or accuse him really harshly.
I would say, that from what you've said, that you probabely like your best friend's boyfriend. It seems like the truth, or at least what you beliee to be true.
Just remember that when you focus too much on something, you subconsciously push it away.
Good luck!
Wow that's hard.... i think you should go tell 'M' what you feel right now.. and if he turns you down and you still feel bad then try again and again to make him think that your really 'in love' with him. Guys like to change gf and stuff but girls don't right?? Tell him that!
I am a teenager and not good at all with people can anyone give me some advice?
Ok I am 16 and I am in 11th grade and I am pretty shy, just this year am I really trying to work on not being as shy. I am working on but still I am having some issues. Up until this point my parents have always fixed my problems for talking to the teachers for me... but now I figure it is time for me to take responsibility for myself but it is hard because of my shyness. Here are some of my problems.
- I am not good with talking to people at all, especially teachers. I get really nervous and I studder, mumble, and talk way too fast.
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I am like this with people at school too, not just teachers. Especially this guy I like, we talk all the time but I neve say much and when I do I studder, mumble and talk way too fast.
- I have a problem with making eye contact with people too and I get nervous and I look down and I play with my hair or spin in my chair or shake my leg or something...
i really need to get over this so I can get a job and for when I go to college... Any advice for me?? Thanks!!I am a teenager and not good at all with people can anyone give me some advice?
just slow down, think about what you say quickly before you say it. don't worry, this will work itself out.I am a teenager and not good at all with people can anyone give me some advice?
omg i know this doesn't answer your question, but that totally describes me lol
If you can't make direct eye contact right away, come close to doing it. Look right above their eyes or at their eyebrows.
If I know I'm going to get stuck in a situation where I need to talk to someone, or I know I'm going to be talking to a guy I like, I try and think of things to talk about beforehand. Like, I'll make a mental list like:
- Ask him about his track meet.
- Ask him about how he did on a test he told you about last time you talked to each-other.
I used to hate talking to teachers too, everyone does. Now, I just plan out exactly what I need to say to them when I have to talk to them about something. It helps a lot.
Last, but not least, practice. I know it sounds lame, but talk to yourself in the mirror. Watch your expressions, and practice making eye contact with yourself.
Hope I helped!
Just think about why you get nervous.. is there any real reason? Instead of looking directly in someones eyes, i like to kind of glance back between there eyes and nose.. it does get kind of freak after a few minutes of direct eye contact.. ha ha. Try to relax, when you get nervous your body tenses. Talk slowly and think about what you want to say. Go out with your friends, put yourself in social situations.. you will be come more comfortable with experience and practice :)
- I am not good with talking to people at all, especially teachers. I get really nervous and I studder, mumble, and talk way too fast.
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I am like this with people at school too, not just teachers. Especially this guy I like, we talk all the time but I neve say much and when I do I studder, mumble and talk way too fast.
- I have a problem with making eye contact with people too and I get nervous and I look down and I play with my hair or spin in my chair or shake my leg or something...
i really need to get over this so I can get a job and for when I go to college... Any advice for me?? Thanks!!I am a teenager and not good at all with people can anyone give me some advice?
just slow down, think about what you say quickly before you say it. don't worry, this will work itself out.I am a teenager and not good at all with people can anyone give me some advice?
omg i know this doesn't answer your question, but that totally describes me lol
If you can't make direct eye contact right away, come close to doing it. Look right above their eyes or at their eyebrows.
If I know I'm going to get stuck in a situation where I need to talk to someone, or I know I'm going to be talking to a guy I like, I try and think of things to talk about beforehand. Like, I'll make a mental list like:
- Ask him about his track meet.
- Ask him about how he did on a test he told you about last time you talked to each-other.
I used to hate talking to teachers too, everyone does. Now, I just plan out exactly what I need to say to them when I have to talk to them about something. It helps a lot.
Last, but not least, practice. I know it sounds lame, but talk to yourself in the mirror. Watch your expressions, and practice making eye contact with yourself.
Hope I helped!
Just think about why you get nervous.. is there any real reason? Instead of looking directly in someones eyes, i like to kind of glance back between there eyes and nose.. it does get kind of freak after a few minutes of direct eye contact.. ha ha. Try to relax, when you get nervous your body tenses. Talk slowly and think about what you want to say. Go out with your friends, put yourself in social situations.. you will be come more comfortable with experience and practice :)
Can any of you guys give me any advice on infatuation and if youve found it or real love when your teenager?
cuase im tired of not knowing if i really love someone instead of being infatuated please just give me advice and no lecturesCan any of you guys give me any advice on infatuation and if youve found it or real love when your teenager?
Well, i think that you can only know if you have real love after having experience with relationships first, to know what you are looking for. I guess you can love people before you have experience, but I would call that kind of love more of an infatuation because it usually can't last. Experience gives you an understanding of who you are and how you will act in any situation, which is what a real love will have to stand up to. So generally, i think it'd be pretty hard to find real love as a teenager. But have fun with the infatuation!Can any of you guys give me any advice on infatuation and if youve found it or real love when your teenager?
I'm 16 and I am most definitely in love
WhenI was a teenager, I wanted to be in love so bad it was ridiculous. I claimed to have such intense emotional feelings for every boy I dated, but it wasn't until after my husband and I were married about 4 years (and yes, I dated him on and off through high school,) that I really understood what actual love was. Don't worry. When you're really in love, you will know it. Sometimes you'll think it's love, but love is selfless and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with the way you think or feel. IT's all about the other person.
hmm.. thats a good question!! so many peopel need to read your question.. and MY ANSWER!! becasue i've had more crushes than i care to count.. but now i know i love someone.. and i'll tell yoyu how...
When you love someone.. truly love someone.. you would do anything for them.. just for the fact that you love them.. and they are who they are.. you see...if you love them.. it wouldnt' matter if htey were hospitalized and looked terrible.. permanently.. you would still love them.. its like you've known them forever and they're tied to you on a whole deeper level.. your inside, your soul.. actually is connected to them.. because you love them. so if you wouldn't mind if they were hurt and looked different and if you would trade your life just to gibve them a chance at theirs and if you would do anything for them without ever thinking of them repaying you.. just because you love them.. and you can't htink of any negative things about them.. and all their positive things come to midn when you think about them.. then you probably love them.. but the thing about giving anything/everything just because you lvoe them is the most key part.. i hope this helps!
It's hard to decipher wether it's love or infatuation when your a teenager. It usually starts out as infatuation, but can turn out to be love. You just gotta be aware of your emotions and take it for what it is.eye
Well, i think that you can only know if you have real love after having experience with relationships first, to know what you are looking for. I guess you can love people before you have experience, but I would call that kind of love more of an infatuation because it usually can't last. Experience gives you an understanding of who you are and how you will act in any situation, which is what a real love will have to stand up to. So generally, i think it'd be pretty hard to find real love as a teenager. But have fun with the infatuation!Can any of you guys give me any advice on infatuation and if youve found it or real love when your teenager?
I'm 16 and I am most definitely in love
WhenI was a teenager, I wanted to be in love so bad it was ridiculous. I claimed to have such intense emotional feelings for every boy I dated, but it wasn't until after my husband and I were married about 4 years (and yes, I dated him on and off through high school,) that I really understood what actual love was. Don't worry. When you're really in love, you will know it. Sometimes you'll think it's love, but love is selfless and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with the way you think or feel. IT's all about the other person.
hmm.. thats a good question!! so many peopel need to read your question.. and MY ANSWER!! becasue i've had more crushes than i care to count.. but now i know i love someone.. and i'll tell yoyu how...
When you love someone.. truly love someone.. you would do anything for them.. just for the fact that you love them.. and they are who they are.. you see...if you love them.. it wouldnt' matter if htey were hospitalized and looked terrible.. permanently.. you would still love them.. its like you've known them forever and they're tied to you on a whole deeper level.. your inside, your soul.. actually is connected to them.. because you love them. so if you wouldn't mind if they were hurt and looked different and if you would trade your life just to gibve them a chance at theirs and if you would do anything for them without ever thinking of them repaying you.. just because you love them.. and you can't htink of any negative things about them.. and all their positive things come to midn when you think about them.. then you probably love them.. but the thing about giving anything/everything just because you lvoe them is the most key part.. i hope this helps!
It's hard to decipher wether it's love or infatuation when your a teenager. It usually starts out as infatuation, but can turn out to be love. You just gotta be aware of your emotions and take it for what it is.
Teenager raises her voice and snaps when asked about school & homework; Eng., Alg.II, Hist. (F's). Advice?
IS SHE HOT?Teenager raises her voice and snaps when asked about school %26amp; homework; Eng., Alg.II, Hist. (F's). Advice?
Take her to Sylvan Learning Center. They're professional tutors %26amp; really help.Teenager raises her voice and snaps when asked about school %26amp; homework; Eng., Alg.II, Hist. (F's). Advice?
I'm a teacher... you need to get ahold of your child. The kid only snaps back at you because she knows she can get away with it, so i guess you havent done much about it in the past. My best advice is to get involved and get in discussions with her teachers and guidance about what you need to do to turn this around... she needs to understand that her lack of effort in High School is going to have a lasting impact on her success for the rest of her life. After she graduates, shes gonna look back and wish someone would have forced her to do things right... thats your job.
Take her to Sylvan Learning Center. They're professional tutors %26amp; really help.Teenager raises her voice and snaps when asked about school %26amp; homework; Eng., Alg.II, Hist. (F's). Advice?
I'm a teacher... you need to get ahold of your child. The kid only snaps back at you because she knows she can get away with it, so i guess you havent done much about it in the past. My best advice is to get involved and get in discussions with her teachers and guidance about what you need to do to turn this around... she needs to understand that her lack of effort in High School is going to have a lasting impact on her success for the rest of her life. After she graduates, shes gonna look back and wish someone would have forced her to do things right... thats your job.
Please advice me on what to do.. im a confused teenager who loves her friend too much, can you help me?
what do you think about godsisters? how does the relationship really work?
i have this friend. shes 1 year older than me, but i feel that we really click. i like her, i love being around her. she makes me feel good about myself. the thing is that we cant really spend a lot of time together, we dont have a lot of things in common at school. the only time i spend with her is during softball training. thats how i know her anyway, shes my softball senior and team mate for more than 3 years and we've been getting closer ever since. this is her last year in school and im really bummed out. i dont want to lose her. i like her and she likes me too as friends but we just dont really show it. we're close but not that close. we're close when we're together but as i said we dont spend a lot of time with eachother.should i ask her to be my godsister so i have a forever bond with her even after she leaves school? but what i fear is that being godsisters will screw things up now and i dont want thatPlease advice me on what to do.. im a confused teenager who loves her friend too much, can you help me?
I dont know what to think about the whole Godsisters thing. Just tell her point blank that you'll miss her, and you want her to keep in touch with you. Be the mature one and walk up to her and talk to her. Its that easy. Don't go up to her and say ';hey do you want to be Godsisters?'; Because honestly, unless she believes in all that too.. She'll think youre crazy or joking. Just go up to her Like I said and tell her you want to keep in touch and how you feel! Hopefully she'll feel the same way and you'll have a friend for life! Good LuckPlease advice me on what to do.. im a confused teenager who loves her friend too much, can you help me?
i noe this sounds wierd but i think you should ask her.. that's wat my frenz do
dont worry its just hormones,
FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS BETTER LEFT UPON THE SHELF
Even though she will no longer be in school it doesnt mean this is the end of your friendship. Be sure to call each other often and write and send cards. Make it a point to get together during holidays and wekends to do girl stuff. Be sure to let her know how much u r going to miss her on a daily basis. Cherish her friendship always and be sure to let her know that! Like I said plan ahead with her to say have Sundays be a day just for the 2 of u to do girl things together. That way u have something to look forward too all week long! Good luck to u!
tell her how you feel
Don't be tens and sad the best thing that you should do in the present situation is just go and talk to her that Will make you feel better and said it before it become too late.
It sjust hormones. these things happen. She is obvisouly a good friend. Just tell her how much you lover her as a friend. The feelings will surely pass, if not theres nothing wrong with that either
The best thing is to tell her how you feel, hard to do i know but it is the best thing to do.
If you cant tell her face to face try writting her a letter and telling her.
just stop and think how you would want to be told if the situation was reveresed
first of all u think of ur self that is it a love or just an attraction......you try to talk with her .try to make her think about u.she should feel comfortable with %26amp;when u r sure of that she also feels u..than just propose her that u r in love with her..if she denies than also be calm %26amp; quite coz love means lossing not gaining..love means respecting each others emotions ..u love her innerself not her body so be a true lover...all the best
i have this friend. shes 1 year older than me, but i feel that we really click. i like her, i love being around her. she makes me feel good about myself. the thing is that we cant really spend a lot of time together, we dont have a lot of things in common at school. the only time i spend with her is during softball training. thats how i know her anyway, shes my softball senior and team mate for more than 3 years and we've been getting closer ever since. this is her last year in school and im really bummed out. i dont want to lose her. i like her and she likes me too as friends but we just dont really show it. we're close but not that close. we're close when we're together but as i said we dont spend a lot of time with eachother.should i ask her to be my godsister so i have a forever bond with her even after she leaves school? but what i fear is that being godsisters will screw things up now and i dont want thatPlease advice me on what to do.. im a confused teenager who loves her friend too much, can you help me?
I dont know what to think about the whole Godsisters thing. Just tell her point blank that you'll miss her, and you want her to keep in touch with you. Be the mature one and walk up to her and talk to her. Its that easy. Don't go up to her and say ';hey do you want to be Godsisters?'; Because honestly, unless she believes in all that too.. She'll think youre crazy or joking. Just go up to her Like I said and tell her you want to keep in touch and how you feel! Hopefully she'll feel the same way and you'll have a friend for life! Good LuckPlease advice me on what to do.. im a confused teenager who loves her friend too much, can you help me?
i noe this sounds wierd but i think you should ask her.. that's wat my frenz do
dont worry its just hormones,
FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS BETTER LEFT UPON THE SHELF
Even though she will no longer be in school it doesnt mean this is the end of your friendship. Be sure to call each other often and write and send cards. Make it a point to get together during holidays and wekends to do girl stuff. Be sure to let her know how much u r going to miss her on a daily basis. Cherish her friendship always and be sure to let her know that! Like I said plan ahead with her to say have Sundays be a day just for the 2 of u to do girl things together. That way u have something to look forward too all week long! Good luck to u!
tell her how you feel
Don't be tens and sad the best thing that you should do in the present situation is just go and talk to her that Will make you feel better and said it before it become too late.
It sjust hormones. these things happen. She is obvisouly a good friend. Just tell her how much you lover her as a friend. The feelings will surely pass, if not theres nothing wrong with that either
The best thing is to tell her how you feel, hard to do i know but it is the best thing to do.
If you cant tell her face to face try writting her a letter and telling her.
just stop and think how you would want to be told if the situation was reveresed
first of all u think of ur self that is it a love or just an attraction......you try to talk with her .try to make her think about u.she should feel comfortable with %26amp;when u r sure of that she also feels u..than just propose her that u r in love with her..if she denies than also be calm %26amp; quite coz love means lossing not gaining..love means respecting each others emotions ..u love her innerself not her body so be a true lover...all the best
For people who have time to read about a teenager about to cry hard and give serious advice..?
Ok to make long story short, i asked my friend aka MEGA huge crush what was wrong, because he seemed real depressed in class the other day..i asked him in class and he was lyke ';mm im kay'; but i didnt believe him at all so i asked him again by email, and he was lyke';im kay. ily.';okay ILY stands for i love you, so i was OMG he loves me but then i was lyke';uhm wait. i think he was trying to spell really.'; so i replied ';ily'; then he was lyke ';fine then'; on the next email. so i replied ';did i piss you off? omg becuz i didnt think u meant ily i thought u mean really.'; then he replied ';k then. what do u wan to talk about?';didnt he seem pissed? does he lyke me? and please read this for a better understanding..please.
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when i asked if he was talking behind me back he said ';no i never did and never will. your cheeks are too cute.';
and my friend said he was talking aboutFor people who have time to read about a teenager about to cry hard and give serious advice..?
your over thinking this! if you like him just tell him, whats the worst that could happen? ask him if he likes you too! worst case seniro things get weird for a bit and you bolth stay friends!
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when i asked if he was talking behind me back he said ';no i never did and never will. your cheeks are too cute.';
and my friend said he was talking aboutFor people who have time to read about a teenager about to cry hard and give serious advice..?
your over thinking this! if you like him just tell him, whats the worst that could happen? ask him if he likes you too! worst case seniro things get weird for a bit and you bolth stay friends!
Teenager thinking about birth control...but for different reasons...advice?
Okay so here's my situation:
I'm 17 years old. I was overweight all my life until I was about 13 or 14 years old, which I turned to anerexia that lasted almost a year. This was the same time I got my first period. However I did ';recover,'; my eating habits weren't normal until last year(I saw a nutritionist and a therapist). My chest didn't grow normally, and my body turned into a pear-shape. I've had many irregular periods, digestion problems, and abnormal pains(not cramps). I JUST recently found out that I have an huge ovarian csist and was home from school for 2 weeks. The pain comes back randomly, so I'm afraid to have a repeat of that moment. My doctor says that it's either Birth Control or live with the pain... but I'm so scared of a relapse. I know BC can help this, along with my chest size, but I mentally couldn't stand it if I gained even a bit of weight. I know it sounds pathetic, but I'm still not 100% O.K. I need a real person's opinion- not that of a doctor. Please helpTeenager thinking about birth control...but for different reasons...advice?
I'm definitely no doctor, just a woman trying to lose five pounds (and failing... mmm delicious brownies). I have been on the pill, and yes, I retained water. I'm not anorexic, nor have I ever had an eating disorder, so I'm not going to patronize you by pretending I know how you feel. I do know that anorexia is a serious disease and I understand that the thought of gaining weight is terrifying.
But on the other hand, if you want bigger breasts, that necessarily means more weight. Also, the pill means water retention, and that might show up on the scale. On the other hand, less physical pain.
To be perfectly honest, I don't know which you should choose. I would choose the birth control, but anorexia isn't scary for me. My opinion is that you should try the pill. The nice thing about it is that you can stop the pill anytime. If you do start freaking out and are afraid that you're relapsing, you can always just stop taking the pill and any water weight it caused you to gain will go away.Teenager thinking about birth control...but for different reasons...advice?
Give the pill a try. Ive been on it for 6 months now to help with regulating my period and reducing my cramps and it has helped completely... And Ive not gained any weight! So.. give it a try.. There are many different kinds of pills out there. Good luck.
take the BC, and if you start feeling bad, just tell your parents and maybe you could go back to your therapist for more help. :)
Birth control has different effects on everyone. I didn't gain any weight. My roommate actually lost weight. So just don't believe everyone gains weight. . .
I would go on the pill, especially to help with the ovarian cist. It helps with the pain tremendously.
I'm 17 years old. I was overweight all my life until I was about 13 or 14 years old, which I turned to anerexia that lasted almost a year. This was the same time I got my first period. However I did ';recover,'; my eating habits weren't normal until last year(I saw a nutritionist and a therapist). My chest didn't grow normally, and my body turned into a pear-shape. I've had many irregular periods, digestion problems, and abnormal pains(not cramps). I JUST recently found out that I have an huge ovarian csist and was home from school for 2 weeks. The pain comes back randomly, so I'm afraid to have a repeat of that moment. My doctor says that it's either Birth Control or live with the pain... but I'm so scared of a relapse. I know BC can help this, along with my chest size, but I mentally couldn't stand it if I gained even a bit of weight. I know it sounds pathetic, but I'm still not 100% O.K. I need a real person's opinion- not that of a doctor. Please helpTeenager thinking about birth control...but for different reasons...advice?
I'm definitely no doctor, just a woman trying to lose five pounds (and failing... mmm delicious brownies). I have been on the pill, and yes, I retained water. I'm not anorexic, nor have I ever had an eating disorder, so I'm not going to patronize you by pretending I know how you feel. I do know that anorexia is a serious disease and I understand that the thought of gaining weight is terrifying.
But on the other hand, if you want bigger breasts, that necessarily means more weight. Also, the pill means water retention, and that might show up on the scale. On the other hand, less physical pain.
To be perfectly honest, I don't know which you should choose. I would choose the birth control, but anorexia isn't scary for me. My opinion is that you should try the pill. The nice thing about it is that you can stop the pill anytime. If you do start freaking out and are afraid that you're relapsing, you can always just stop taking the pill and any water weight it caused you to gain will go away.Teenager thinking about birth control...but for different reasons...advice?
Give the pill a try. Ive been on it for 6 months now to help with regulating my period and reducing my cramps and it has helped completely... And Ive not gained any weight! So.. give it a try.. There are many different kinds of pills out there. Good luck.
take the BC, and if you start feeling bad, just tell your parents and maybe you could go back to your therapist for more help. :)
Birth control has different effects on everyone. I didn't gain any weight. My roommate actually lost weight. So just don't believe everyone gains weight. . .
I would go on the pill, especially to help with the ovarian cist. It helps with the pain tremendously.
What advice do you have for a late-bloomer teenager?
I feel so young. I don't go to dances at all, I hang out a little but can't stay up very late. I've never dated (I don't really want to, and my parents would strongly disapprove) I don't want to embrace any of the ';bad'; things teenagers do but I wanna loosen up a little. How can I come across less nerdy/childish and more cool or older? Please don't say ';just be yourself';, becaues I AM myself, I just need to FIND myself.What advice do you have for a late-bloomer teenager?
maybe you should talk to your parents about letting you stay out a little later. I'm 15 and my parents have let me stayed out as late as 1. but maybe 11 is good for you right now (that's how long I usually stay at a friend's house). 1 is more for parties (like birthday parties, sweet16s, etc..)
if you wanna become ';cool'; just don't let people pressure you into doing things you don't want to do. make sure you actually WANT to do these things like stay out late. no one can make you ';older';. it comes from you growing, learning, and experiencing.
I hope this helps =]What advice do you have for a late-bloomer teenager?
This is such a sweet question! Believe it or not, even the coolest of the cool kids ask themselves the same things. Of course you are finding yourself because that is what is completely normal for your age.
Try a little make over. Maybe a new haircut or color (not too drastic). Maybe a little make up. The new you will give you a spurt of self esteem.
Hi, im new to this but heres what you could do,
join some school sports ( one that you're good at )
get a stylish haircut, i know bangs are riht now, side swept and thick straights. So yes. hope i've been helpfull. =)
You have to be a little more smarter. Do you know how to out smart your parents? You have to organize your thoughts, but always remember what your parents say in case you get caught up in some trouble. No matter what they say, it is always true. Have fun, explore the wild life, it out there. Please do not try to grow up so fast, stay young. You have a whole life ahead of you, don't go crashing into a brick wall, there is so much I can say. HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!
Me, You sound like a mature sensible untried girl, please do not change and become like all the rest ! I was a very shy young man, and true I did miss out on alot of things but as a 47 year old man there is still gonna be joy when I share them with my eternal Honey !!! Love Kenny
Everyone goes through that awkward adolescence phase, wishing they could just grow up fast. By the time you're in your twenties you'll wish you wouldn't age so fast. Appreciate the time you have.
Just hang out with friends and have fun! You won't have to worry about falling into the things that teenagers do wrong [[like drinking and drugs and stuff]] if you are choosing the correct people to hang out with. If your friends ask you to hang out and you can get a ride, ask your parents if you can stay out a little late. Or have fun setting up a surprise party for a friend. Just hang out, chill out, and have fun. Stick to your morals and become more open with your life. You'll be fine!
idk what to tell you...i'm just the same thing...no joke... i don't wanna do drugs or drink and i don't get to kick it with my friends alot... i prbably could but i don't date... but the only thing to say is who cares if you're a little ';nerdy';...maybe if you're good at sports or a hobby you could join that...jocks are never ';nerdy'; ;)...hang out with the people you feel comfortable with and don't try so hard to be ';cool';...good luck!
Be patient. Maybe through music or a club at school you can find a friend that is more like you.
If you're not ready to date, don't date (that would be no fun for the guy!) And if you don't like dances, no one's making you go. But I would try to embrace your social life- I don't mean go to parties and sneak out and drink. Just get yourself a good group of friends that won't judge you for who you are and bond with them. Go out on friday nights to grab pizza with them and go bowling. Go to the movies with more than 4 kids so it's a nice group setting and get ice cream after and just talk. Go get coffee and bring some fun games like Balderdash and Scattergories with you and get into it.
Your friends are the ones that will help you find a happy medium of enjoying your growing years and also being safe and happy. It worked for me! :)
You're right, you don't want to be a model ';bad'; teenager. It seems like you're parents may be a little strict. I would join in after school activities with a large amount of people. It would be approved by your parents and you could meet more people and get your social life going. Also, most people are attracted to those that are involved in things. Don't be afraid to ask new friends over, or to the movies or to have a get together. You can have fun and get to know some really great friends, which will not only boost your confidence but your social status.
Ahh the question of the teenaged mind. This is a sign of getting cooler and older. All teenagers ask this question. You're not nerdy or childish for not wanting to go on dates. You're just antisocial and there is no problem with that at all. Its cool to see that you're not pressured at all to be like most teenagers. This is also a sign of cool-ness and maturity :] I am trying to stay as young as possible because I have the rest of my life to be old! haha. My issue is the opposite of yours. Well, anyways, good luck and have fun doing whatever you decide to do!
Just go up to some one that is REALLY nice and you kow wont be REALLy ';mean and be like hi my name is ______';
And mabey throw in a compliment!!!
My! you triggered flashbacks to my high school years. I too was a late bloomer and pretty nerdy. I think you will probably be more reserved than most people, for the rest of your young adult life. To become a bit more outgoing, I joined the acting classes at my college. It helped a lot! Since yo are younger you can probably do this at your high school and get a head start. Acting really gets you out of you shell and you make new outgoing friends. I think that since you know what you want, you are going to be just fine. Don't try to change too much though. Teenage years are awkward and you will probably find yourself in your mid 20's. So don't be in a hurry.
Be more social.
Try to get involved more at school and with friends.Playing sports and joing clubs with help you come out of your shell. All you are lacking is some confidence.
getting older is for the birds...one day, you're young and look like you always do, next thing you know, you ache, you're tired , look like a bucket of garbage and nothing is very much fun. enjoy it, it doesn't last as long as you think..
I felt like you, so i started to learn the guitar and plan on starting a band, it made me feel older and i made loads of new friends doing it. We hang out alot and don't do any of the bad things other teenagers do to look more grown up. You don't have to learn the guitar, just do something you like or something you haven't done before. have fun :)
You are too caught up in the scene at school.
Get your parents to join you in looking for a pottery class or a modern dance class after school, but not *at* school.........just break away from the same old things so you can find some nice people for after school ..do something 'grown-up', I think you will feel better....in addition, I think you might enjoy looking ahead about going to college or business school ... I don't quite get
how old you are, but you do need to think about yourself and what you would like to do....
x
1. Find a close knit of friends that will love you no matter what. Then, they can introduce you to even more friends, and you won't be afraid to loosen up around them.
2. If you don't want to date, then at least try to approach guys. Get to know them, and become friends. Variety is always good :)
3. Make a Myspace if you don't have one already. It will help you connect more with people at your school.
4. Make a list. Of things that you want to do before you're off to college. And be sure to include a few spontaneous things that will push you out of your comfort zone. :)
5. Lastly, don't be afraid of what other people think of you. Go with the flow and have a laid back attitude, and make sure not to worry too much :)
trust me, everything falls into place as you grow up. you don't want to 'try' to find yourself, then you just end up being somebody you're not. Let life take its course and you will see. you sound mature to me. stay that way. if you simply want to loosen up, then go to the school dances and dance your little heart out. ask the boys to dance.
well you just need to take ur time maybe if you try really hard something fanstic will happen to you!!!
Stop
network...make some friends
and work your way up the popularity ladder
but don't do stuff like drugs, ';home-runs';, etc.
If you don't go to dances or hang out,you must spend that time doing SOMETHING....right........?
Do you have hobbies?.....what interests you?
Ask those Questions to yourself and try to find ways to get in other activities that involve people with similar interests.
Just because you don't dance, hang out or date really doesn't make a difference of who are. ..(.I know you asked us not to say that but I'm going somewhere with this)
I don't think your biggest problem is FINDING yourself, I think you need to FIND SOMETHING to do with people who like to do the same things you like to do..
You say you feel young ,yet you are probably more responsible and grown up than many of your peers...
I live in a real small town and there are all kinds of groups who advertise events in the local paper....everything from reading clubs to gardening workshops....
Just keep your mind busy with things you like and DISCOVERY will be made.......
Hey there,
I'm a seventeen year old girl and I totally know how your feeling right now. You dont want to mix with the wrong crowd but it seems like all the ';cool'; people are IN that crowd!
I found it really hard to decide whether I wanted to be involved with the cool crowd and do bad things or stick to myself and get somewhere in life! All I can say, is that at the end of the day, when you get to about 20 or 25 there is no such thing as the cool crowd. All the people that used to be ';cool'; are stuck working in wallmart! You'll be the one with a hugh paying job and a career and the roles will have reversed.
At the end of the day. Just stay true to youself and your heart will lead you in the right direction.
hope this helped
xxx
maybe you should talk to your parents about letting you stay out a little later. I'm 15 and my parents have let me stayed out as late as 1. but maybe 11 is good for you right now (that's how long I usually stay at a friend's house). 1 is more for parties (like birthday parties, sweet16s, etc..)
if you wanna become ';cool'; just don't let people pressure you into doing things you don't want to do. make sure you actually WANT to do these things like stay out late. no one can make you ';older';. it comes from you growing, learning, and experiencing.
I hope this helps =]What advice do you have for a late-bloomer teenager?
This is such a sweet question! Believe it or not, even the coolest of the cool kids ask themselves the same things. Of course you are finding yourself because that is what is completely normal for your age.
Try a little make over. Maybe a new haircut or color (not too drastic). Maybe a little make up. The new you will give you a spurt of self esteem.
Hi, im new to this but heres what you could do,
join some school sports ( one that you're good at )
get a stylish haircut, i know bangs are riht now, side swept and thick straights. So yes. hope i've been helpfull. =)
You have to be a little more smarter. Do you know how to out smart your parents? You have to organize your thoughts, but always remember what your parents say in case you get caught up in some trouble. No matter what they say, it is always true. Have fun, explore the wild life, it out there. Please do not try to grow up so fast, stay young. You have a whole life ahead of you, don't go crashing into a brick wall, there is so much I can say. HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!
Me, You sound like a mature sensible untried girl, please do not change and become like all the rest ! I was a very shy young man, and true I did miss out on alot of things but as a 47 year old man there is still gonna be joy when I share them with my eternal Honey !!! Love Kenny
Everyone goes through that awkward adolescence phase, wishing they could just grow up fast. By the time you're in your twenties you'll wish you wouldn't age so fast. Appreciate the time you have.
Just hang out with friends and have fun! You won't have to worry about falling into the things that teenagers do wrong [[like drinking and drugs and stuff]] if you are choosing the correct people to hang out with. If your friends ask you to hang out and you can get a ride, ask your parents if you can stay out a little late. Or have fun setting up a surprise party for a friend. Just hang out, chill out, and have fun. Stick to your morals and become more open with your life. You'll be fine!
idk what to tell you...i'm just the same thing...no joke... i don't wanna do drugs or drink and i don't get to kick it with my friends alot... i prbably could but i don't date... but the only thing to say is who cares if you're a little ';nerdy';...maybe if you're good at sports or a hobby you could join that...jocks are never ';nerdy'; ;)...hang out with the people you feel comfortable with and don't try so hard to be ';cool';...good luck!
Be patient. Maybe through music or a club at school you can find a friend that is more like you.
If you're not ready to date, don't date (that would be no fun for the guy!) And if you don't like dances, no one's making you go. But I would try to embrace your social life- I don't mean go to parties and sneak out and drink. Just get yourself a good group of friends that won't judge you for who you are and bond with them. Go out on friday nights to grab pizza with them and go bowling. Go to the movies with more than 4 kids so it's a nice group setting and get ice cream after and just talk. Go get coffee and bring some fun games like Balderdash and Scattergories with you and get into it.
Your friends are the ones that will help you find a happy medium of enjoying your growing years and also being safe and happy. It worked for me! :)
You're right, you don't want to be a model ';bad'; teenager. It seems like you're parents may be a little strict. I would join in after school activities with a large amount of people. It would be approved by your parents and you could meet more people and get your social life going. Also, most people are attracted to those that are involved in things. Don't be afraid to ask new friends over, or to the movies or to have a get together. You can have fun and get to know some really great friends, which will not only boost your confidence but your social status.
Ahh the question of the teenaged mind. This is a sign of getting cooler and older. All teenagers ask this question. You're not nerdy or childish for not wanting to go on dates. You're just antisocial and there is no problem with that at all. Its cool to see that you're not pressured at all to be like most teenagers. This is also a sign of cool-ness and maturity :] I am trying to stay as young as possible because I have the rest of my life to be old! haha. My issue is the opposite of yours. Well, anyways, good luck and have fun doing whatever you decide to do!
Just go up to some one that is REALLY nice and you kow wont be REALLy ';mean and be like hi my name is ______';
And mabey throw in a compliment!!!
My! you triggered flashbacks to my high school years. I too was a late bloomer and pretty nerdy. I think you will probably be more reserved than most people, for the rest of your young adult life. To become a bit more outgoing, I joined the acting classes at my college. It helped a lot! Since yo are younger you can probably do this at your high school and get a head start. Acting really gets you out of you shell and you make new outgoing friends. I think that since you know what you want, you are going to be just fine. Don't try to change too much though. Teenage years are awkward and you will probably find yourself in your mid 20's. So don't be in a hurry.
Be more social.
Try to get involved more at school and with friends.Playing sports and joing clubs with help you come out of your shell. All you are lacking is some confidence.
getting older is for the birds...one day, you're young and look like you always do, next thing you know, you ache, you're tired , look like a bucket of garbage and nothing is very much fun. enjoy it, it doesn't last as long as you think..
I felt like you, so i started to learn the guitar and plan on starting a band, it made me feel older and i made loads of new friends doing it. We hang out alot and don't do any of the bad things other teenagers do to look more grown up. You don't have to learn the guitar, just do something you like or something you haven't done before. have fun :)
You are too caught up in the scene at school.
Get your parents to join you in looking for a pottery class or a modern dance class after school, but not *at* school.........just break away from the same old things so you can find some nice people for after school ..do something 'grown-up', I think you will feel better....in addition, I think you might enjoy looking ahead about going to college or business school ... I don't quite get
how old you are, but you do need to think about yourself and what you would like to do....
x
1. Find a close knit of friends that will love you no matter what. Then, they can introduce you to even more friends, and you won't be afraid to loosen up around them.
2. If you don't want to date, then at least try to approach guys. Get to know them, and become friends. Variety is always good :)
3. Make a Myspace if you don't have one already. It will help you connect more with people at your school.
4. Make a list. Of things that you want to do before you're off to college. And be sure to include a few spontaneous things that will push you out of your comfort zone. :)
5. Lastly, don't be afraid of what other people think of you. Go with the flow and have a laid back attitude, and make sure not to worry too much :)
trust me, everything falls into place as you grow up. you don't want to 'try' to find yourself, then you just end up being somebody you're not. Let life take its course and you will see. you sound mature to me. stay that way. if you simply want to loosen up, then go to the school dances and dance your little heart out. ask the boys to dance.
well you just need to take ur time maybe if you try really hard something fanstic will happen to you!!!
Stop
network...make some friends
and work your way up the popularity ladder
but don't do stuff like drugs, ';home-runs';, etc.
If you don't go to dances or hang out,you must spend that time doing SOMETHING....right........?
Do you have hobbies?.....what interests you?
Ask those Questions to yourself and try to find ways to get in other activities that involve people with similar interests.
Just because you don't dance, hang out or date really doesn't make a difference of who are. ..(.I know you asked us not to say that but I'm going somewhere with this)
I don't think your biggest problem is FINDING yourself, I think you need to FIND SOMETHING to do with people who like to do the same things you like to do..
You say you feel young ,yet you are probably more responsible and grown up than many of your peers...
I live in a real small town and there are all kinds of groups who advertise events in the local paper....everything from reading clubs to gardening workshops....
Just keep your mind busy with things you like and DISCOVERY will be made.......
Hey there,
I'm a seventeen year old girl and I totally know how your feeling right now. You dont want to mix with the wrong crowd but it seems like all the ';cool'; people are IN that crowd!
I found it really hard to decide whether I wanted to be involved with the cool crowd and do bad things or stick to myself and get somewhere in life! All I can say, is that at the end of the day, when you get to about 20 or 25 there is no such thing as the cool crowd. All the people that used to be ';cool'; are stuck working in wallmart! You'll be the one with a hugh paying job and a career and the roles will have reversed.
At the end of the day. Just stay true to youself and your heart will lead you in the right direction.
hope this helped
xxx
I am a teenager petrified about getting my wisdom teeth removed. Advice?
My worst NIGHTMARE has come true. I have to pull out my wisdom teeth. Thankfully, I only have 2 and they have NO ROOTS, so they are just sitting under my gums like rocks. Will I NOT hear any cracking when they yank them out since there aren't any roots? How do they cut your gums opened? Do they stitch it back up?
One of them is slightly touching one of my tooth, but have not pushed any of my teeth yet. The other one is just sitting there. I was told they will use local anesthetic. Is that a shot? How many do I get? How long will it take? Typically how long will it take to heal?
I will sincerely appreciate any advice/stories.I am a teenager petrified about getting my wisdom teeth removed. Advice?
i'll just tell u exactly what i experienced when i was 16 (i'm 22 now):
i had to have 3 wisdom teeth out (weird # so they called me a mutant). they were still under the gums, no roots yet. i absolutely made sure to get them out before they grew in, knowing how hard it is once they're already attached.
i chose gas instead of an I/V cuz i wanted a quicker recovery time. they put the gas mask on me. the room started spinning. i actually took off the mask while they weren't looking b/c i felt like i was gonna vomit.
and that turned out to be the worst part of it!
cuz after that, everything's a blur. i was awake but lost in my own psychedelic trip. i watched various tools enter %26amp; exit my mouth. pretty soon, the dentist was saying ';1 down, 2 to go!'; i remember thinking ';wait, he started already?';
so yes they cut a little slit in your gum, take the tooth out, %26amp; stitch it back up. for mine, they had to saw the tooth in half first, before removing it. so i do remember him pushing down hard with the little buzzsaw for a couple seconds, but that was the most pressure i felt the whole time %26amp; it was only for one tricky bottom tooth.
and no there was no cracking or pulling sensation, not like having a permanent tooth wrenched from your jaw. the wisdom teeth just slid out.
sewing up was easy. it was weird watching him move the needle/thread in %26amp; out ur mouth when u can't feel it.
afterwards, my biggest issue was bleeding. i took a nap right after %26amp; woke up to some pain on my upper gums, where some stitches had come loose. it throbbed painfully for about 20 min, then subsided. it took a while for that particular spot to clot, but i was up and about the next day, w/ 1 swollen cheek.
so that's it! of course it all depends on your oral surgeon. i didn't even feel the needles this time, but i have during other extractions. i'm glad i stayed awake during it. but if i ever had to get another permanent tooth out, i'd take the I/V! hahaI am a teenager petrified about getting my wisdom teeth removed. Advice?
They didn't give me stitches. Mine were under skin too, had roots.
Yeah shots, Novocaine and I think something else. They don't hurt too bad. They gave me laughing gas too, didn't do anything but made me dizzy.
It took me 20 minutes to get numb and about 3 minutes to pull them out.
I think the worst part of the experience is having my face numb for 5 hours after they pulled them out. Takes about a week to heal.
Whenever they took mine out it took all day. They had to put me in the hospital tho to do that, because whenever I had my tonsils taking out I coded, so they wanted to be on the safe side with the anesthetic. My face was swollen real bad afterwards, and it took me a week - a week and a half to recover. If there just doing yours in a denist office it willnot be that bad at all tho.
Don't sweat it. They give you anesthia, and you don't feel a thing. I was 33 when I got 4 taken out - had been putting it off for years. It wasn't a big deal, and the recovery period was very short. You will be fine!
if your uncomfotable and that nervous you can anesthetic to put you under and you will not remember or fell it and if your oral surgen wont do it im sure you can find one that will
hey--i got 4 wisdom teeth taken out the year before i came to college...they gave me anesthesia, and i dont remember any of it! they stitch up your gums when they are done. the level of pain during the recovery period really varies from person to person. for me, it really wasn't that bad at all. i had very little swelling, and i wasn't bruised at all. don't worry about it so much. i promise, it really won't be that bad. i've had friends whose were worse than mine, and they didnt think it was as bad as people make it out to be either. you just get to eat lots of icecream :)
well good for you i just got all four of my wisdom teeth out this morning passing on the good news to fellow nervous people like i was surely one myself. I WAS DEATHLY scared of this proceedure. I had three impacted wisdom teeth and one coming out regularly. All of them were infected really bad and the pain was almost umbarable (spelling?) I had no choice but to get them out or they would have cracked my teeth and the infection could have spead, it just wasn't worth it. When i went in in the morning they told me exactly what they were going to do. It might be different but for me, they made an incision in my gum line, and cut the tooth in half and took it out by a half at a time. After that i got stiches but they just dissolve as time goes by. I remember sitting in the chair and i started to cry but because they gave me general anesthesia they had to give me an I.V. I remember when they put the I.V. in me (which i couldn't feel at all...just look away) the dentist said to look at a poster of fishes on the ceiling and pretty soon the fishes would start to swim. Next thing i knew i woke up and it was done. I haden't felt anything and i was so numb. I have also had local anesthesia before in a different case and you shouldn't feel anything in fact you will probably go to sleep as well. But just because there's nothing else to do, not because it makes you. Just to warn you though, the first few hours after words there is going to be a lot of blood. But that is completely normal after getting teeth removed from your body. just keep the gauze in at least an hour and then change to new ones. I had to do this only three times and i had 4 teeth taken out so yours might be a little better. Another thing that is nasty is that you'll have to mix some warm water with table salt and wash your mouth out with that. DO NOT rinse your mouth. Just put the water in your mouth and gently move your head around so the water will get everywhere and just tip your head down and open your mouth to let the water out. If you rince or swish to much you could dislodge the blood cot inside your holes and it could cause dry socket (don't be afraid about that it is easily avoided and no one has ever not recovered from it that got it) Do not drink through a straw, do not smoke, do not rince or swish, try not to cough, sneeze, or spit that much, and do not take your pain medication (which is usually vicodin) with out food...trust me on that one.MOST OF ALL DON'T THINK ABOUT TOO MUCH. I did and it made me sick and cry and after all of that it wasn't nearly what i thought it was. There is gonna be some pain, but take your medication as schedualed and everything will go a-okay! sorry this is so long i just wanted you to know that not only am i a teenager but i was sooooooo scared. right now you obviously wont know for sure what i'm talking about but when it happens you'll find out for yourself. Hope this helped and good luck, you'll be fine. I just wished someone told me this advice before i got mineLOL:)mor
One of them is slightly touching one of my tooth, but have not pushed any of my teeth yet. The other one is just sitting there. I was told they will use local anesthetic. Is that a shot? How many do I get? How long will it take? Typically how long will it take to heal?
I will sincerely appreciate any advice/stories.I am a teenager petrified about getting my wisdom teeth removed. Advice?
i'll just tell u exactly what i experienced when i was 16 (i'm 22 now):
i had to have 3 wisdom teeth out (weird # so they called me a mutant). they were still under the gums, no roots yet. i absolutely made sure to get them out before they grew in, knowing how hard it is once they're already attached.
i chose gas instead of an I/V cuz i wanted a quicker recovery time. they put the gas mask on me. the room started spinning. i actually took off the mask while they weren't looking b/c i felt like i was gonna vomit.
and that turned out to be the worst part of it!
cuz after that, everything's a blur. i was awake but lost in my own psychedelic trip. i watched various tools enter %26amp; exit my mouth. pretty soon, the dentist was saying ';1 down, 2 to go!'; i remember thinking ';wait, he started already?';
so yes they cut a little slit in your gum, take the tooth out, %26amp; stitch it back up. for mine, they had to saw the tooth in half first, before removing it. so i do remember him pushing down hard with the little buzzsaw for a couple seconds, but that was the most pressure i felt the whole time %26amp; it was only for one tricky bottom tooth.
and no there was no cracking or pulling sensation, not like having a permanent tooth wrenched from your jaw. the wisdom teeth just slid out.
sewing up was easy. it was weird watching him move the needle/thread in %26amp; out ur mouth when u can't feel it.
afterwards, my biggest issue was bleeding. i took a nap right after %26amp; woke up to some pain on my upper gums, where some stitches had come loose. it throbbed painfully for about 20 min, then subsided. it took a while for that particular spot to clot, but i was up and about the next day, w/ 1 swollen cheek.
so that's it! of course it all depends on your oral surgeon. i didn't even feel the needles this time, but i have during other extractions. i'm glad i stayed awake during it. but if i ever had to get another permanent tooth out, i'd take the I/V! hahaI am a teenager petrified about getting my wisdom teeth removed. Advice?
They didn't give me stitches. Mine were under skin too, had roots.
Yeah shots, Novocaine and I think something else. They don't hurt too bad. They gave me laughing gas too, didn't do anything but made me dizzy.
It took me 20 minutes to get numb and about 3 minutes to pull them out.
I think the worst part of the experience is having my face numb for 5 hours after they pulled them out. Takes about a week to heal.
Whenever they took mine out it took all day. They had to put me in the hospital tho to do that, because whenever I had my tonsils taking out I coded, so they wanted to be on the safe side with the anesthetic. My face was swollen real bad afterwards, and it took me a week - a week and a half to recover. If there just doing yours in a denist office it willnot be that bad at all tho.
Don't sweat it. They give you anesthia, and you don't feel a thing. I was 33 when I got 4 taken out - had been putting it off for years. It wasn't a big deal, and the recovery period was very short. You will be fine!
if your uncomfotable and that nervous you can anesthetic to put you under and you will not remember or fell it and if your oral surgen wont do it im sure you can find one that will
hey--i got 4 wisdom teeth taken out the year before i came to college...they gave me anesthesia, and i dont remember any of it! they stitch up your gums when they are done. the level of pain during the recovery period really varies from person to person. for me, it really wasn't that bad at all. i had very little swelling, and i wasn't bruised at all. don't worry about it so much. i promise, it really won't be that bad. i've had friends whose were worse than mine, and they didnt think it was as bad as people make it out to be either. you just get to eat lots of icecream :)
well good for you i just got all four of my wisdom teeth out this morning passing on the good news to fellow nervous people like i was surely one myself. I WAS DEATHLY scared of this proceedure. I had three impacted wisdom teeth and one coming out regularly. All of them were infected really bad and the pain was almost umbarable (spelling?) I had no choice but to get them out or they would have cracked my teeth and the infection could have spead, it just wasn't worth it. When i went in in the morning they told me exactly what they were going to do. It might be different but for me, they made an incision in my gum line, and cut the tooth in half and took it out by a half at a time. After that i got stiches but they just dissolve as time goes by. I remember sitting in the chair and i started to cry but because they gave me general anesthesia they had to give me an I.V. I remember when they put the I.V. in me (which i couldn't feel at all...just look away) the dentist said to look at a poster of fishes on the ceiling and pretty soon the fishes would start to swim. Next thing i knew i woke up and it was done. I haden't felt anything and i was so numb. I have also had local anesthesia before in a different case and you shouldn't feel anything in fact you will probably go to sleep as well. But just because there's nothing else to do, not because it makes you. Just to warn you though, the first few hours after words there is going to be a lot of blood. But that is completely normal after getting teeth removed from your body. just keep the gauze in at least an hour and then change to new ones. I had to do this only three times and i had 4 teeth taken out so yours might be a little better. Another thing that is nasty is that you'll have to mix some warm water with table salt and wash your mouth out with that. DO NOT rinse your mouth. Just put the water in your mouth and gently move your head around so the water will get everywhere and just tip your head down and open your mouth to let the water out. If you rince or swish to much you could dislodge the blood cot inside your holes and it could cause dry socket (don't be afraid about that it is easily avoided and no one has ever not recovered from it that got it) Do not drink through a straw, do not smoke, do not rince or swish, try not to cough, sneeze, or spit that much, and do not take your pain medication (which is usually vicodin) with out food...trust me on that one.MOST OF ALL DON'T THINK ABOUT TOO MUCH. I did and it made me sick and cry and after all of that it wasn't nearly what i thought it was. There is gonna be some pain, but take your medication as schedualed and everything will go a-okay! sorry this is so long i just wanted you to know that not only am i a teenager but i was sooooooo scared. right now you obviously wont know for sure what i'm talking about but when it happens you'll find out for yourself. Hope this helped and good luck, you'll be fine. I just wished someone told me this advice before i got mineLOL:)
Does anyone have any advice about how to talk to a teenager about masturbation as an alternative to sex?
I have a 16 y/o daughter who I know had sex with her first ';serious'; boyfriend. I wasn't crazy about the idea and wished that she had waited until she was older, but I can't change what happened. I found a message she had written to someone about how ';horny'; she is and I'm afraid that she's going to try to get satisfaction when this ex-boyfriend calls her to ';hang out';. I want to tell her somehow that feeling ';horny'; is natural, but that having sexual contact with someone isn't the only way to satisfy that urge. I just don't know if it would be considered ';weird'; as a parent to think it's OK for their kid to masturbate. She's our only child and my husband doesn't like thinking about her as sexually active so I don't feel I can talk to him about this. Does anyone have a similar situation? How did you handle it?Does anyone have any advice about how to talk to a teenager about masturbation as an alternative to sex?
Hi, I think you would agree that it's a little hard to stop after experiencing it. I agree you need to get and be completely open about it with her. Tell her you've been there...done that, you know how good it feels and get down to her level. There is nothing ';weird'; knowing your kid is masterbating. It is normal. Tell her what it was like for you (wether it was or not ), that it's normal to get horny and normal to masterbate. Masterbation is a great way to learn about your body, what feels good, learn to enjoy it without shame, etc. Ask her if she does and how often and offer some advice on how to do it, and how to get more pleasure out of it....BECAUSE, the alternative is the sex you don't want her to have. Explain to her the down side of sex at her age...the emotional attachments that follow at an age too young to really deal with....all the broken hearts, possible disease and pregnancy...and explain to her that teen age boys are mostly concerned about their sexual needs which means she will get alot of heart break from alot of different boys cause the relationships don't last. Her need for relief will just lead to alot of different guys and heartbreak.
Just be honest and ok with yourself telling her the truth and all the reasons it's better to become good at masterbation and do anything you can to help her out with it. Tell her (and you) horny is normal but masterbation will give her alot of pleasure if done right and anything that helps her learn that within reason is a good thing. Most girls don't know much about their bodies and orgasims. If somebody can teach her the tricks and tips and encourage her to find things that really help her...most boys would be a sexual dissapointment to her after she masters it......which will help her stay out of sexual relationships until she and the guys she sees are mature enough to handle it. I know it feels strange and wrong, but it is normal and anything you can do to help her become good at it, relieve the pressure while getting her to understand the pit falls of sex at her age with boys would be a desirable outcome I think. I think you need to not think like a Mom for awhile but like a horny teenager that has the knowlege and skills to be able to reach great heights of pleasure without...a boy.
So there is nothing weird about your statement or encouraging masterbation as a good alternative for sex and it is just fun and healthy (for both of you if you are still feeling bad about it). Far less ';weird'; than knowing she is having sex with boys.
It is something one can't just turn off.Does anyone have any advice about how to talk to a teenager about masturbation as an alternative to sex?
buy her a few toys
and talk to her about the ways YOU get off
because i am sure you do
using her hands
using a brush
using the showerhead
using toys
using fruit
be open with her about it
and tell her that everyone does it
and that sometimes it is safer by yourself
with some external stimulation like porn
even though the feel of someone else is fantastic
or make sure she is on the pill
has condoms
has other options
other ';entry points';
Too late im 21 and my girlfriend is 18 and we havent had sex due to her being a virgin the only way u can stop them from doing it is to instill a sense of religious or moral code in them not in the ';we have to go to church and be perfect'; way but letting them know whats good and bad and going from there im not trying to be rude or mean and im not trying to preach to you because i have no religion. but that seems to be the only way to keep them smart and by te age of 16 its just too late all u can do is ope she wont get pregnant or infected hope that helps sorry
Hi, I think you would agree that it's a little hard to stop after experiencing it. I agree you need to get and be completely open about it with her. Tell her you've been there...done that, you know how good it feels and get down to her level. There is nothing ';weird'; knowing your kid is masterbating. It is normal. Tell her what it was like for you (wether it was or not ), that it's normal to get horny and normal to masterbate. Masterbation is a great way to learn about your body, what feels good, learn to enjoy it without shame, etc. Ask her if she does and how often and offer some advice on how to do it, and how to get more pleasure out of it....BECAUSE, the alternative is the sex you don't want her to have. Explain to her the down side of sex at her age...the emotional attachments that follow at an age too young to really deal with....all the broken hearts, possible disease and pregnancy...and explain to her that teen age boys are mostly concerned about their sexual needs which means she will get alot of heart break from alot of different boys cause the relationships don't last. Her need for relief will just lead to alot of different guys and heartbreak.
Just be honest and ok with yourself telling her the truth and all the reasons it's better to become good at masterbation and do anything you can to help her out with it. Tell her (and you) horny is normal but masterbation will give her alot of pleasure if done right and anything that helps her learn that within reason is a good thing. Most girls don't know much about their bodies and orgasims. If somebody can teach her the tricks and tips and encourage her to find things that really help her...most boys would be a sexual dissapointment to her after she masters it......which will help her stay out of sexual relationships until she and the guys she sees are mature enough to handle it. I know it feels strange and wrong, but it is normal and anything you can do to help her become good at it, relieve the pressure while getting her to understand the pit falls of sex at her age with boys would be a desirable outcome I think. I think you need to not think like a Mom for awhile but like a horny teenager that has the knowlege and skills to be able to reach great heights of pleasure without...a boy.
So there is nothing weird about your statement or encouraging masterbation as a good alternative for sex and it is just fun and healthy (for both of you if you are still feeling bad about it). Far less ';weird'; than knowing she is having sex with boys.
It is something one can't just turn off.Does anyone have any advice about how to talk to a teenager about masturbation as an alternative to sex?
buy her a few toys
and talk to her about the ways YOU get off
because i am sure you do
using her hands
using a brush
using the showerhead
using toys
using fruit
be open with her about it
and tell her that everyone does it
and that sometimes it is safer by yourself
with some external stimulation like porn
even though the feel of someone else is fantastic
or make sure she is on the pill
has condoms
has other options
other ';entry points';
Too late im 21 and my girlfriend is 18 and we havent had sex due to her being a virgin the only way u can stop them from doing it is to instill a sense of religious or moral code in them not in the ';we have to go to church and be perfect'; way but letting them know whats good and bad and going from there im not trying to be rude or mean and im not trying to preach to you because i have no religion. but that seems to be the only way to keep them smart and by te age of 16 its just too late all u can do is ope she wont get pregnant or infected hope that helps sorry
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