he lives with myself and my partner. he has very mild dyspraxia and now he has gone through puberty he has improved a lot, but he is ver imature.
he is now 16 and left school, and is at college doingengineering. he seems very keen to do well after scraping by at school and hating most days there.
he is driving me mad though as he just takes things and does with them what he likes despite 9our repeated requests that he doesnt. when i say take i mean for ex, he decided to turn our shed into a den for him and mates, while we were at work. he carried my partners telly down there, god he could hve dropped it and has also dragged seats down there from the house that dont belong to us. ive asked him not to have his mates inthe house while im at work (i work full time andpartner does too) but he just carries on inviting them in. shud i expect him not to have friends around. i have tol him i dont mind when im there. he used to leave dishes around but he is learning to tidy them awayAdvice for dealing with a very imature teenager?
You need to set some rules %26amp; claim your home back. It's time for some tough love if you don't want him still living at home with this same attitude at 30. It is your home, you pay the bills, you make the rules. He will continue to do whatever behavior you allow him to get away with. If he won't follow the rules, ask him to leave. It sounds harsh, but would you rather be harsh now or still be faced with this in 10 years, because I promise you, it will not get better, %26amp; you are enableing him. It is really the only way to help him.Advice for dealing with a very imature teenager?
Well, you have to start setting ground rules. He is not taking you seriously, probably because he has been able to have whatever he wants in life with no consequences. Just by telling him ';no, you can't do this';, but not doing anything about it, won't help. When he leaves at some point take everything out of the shed and lock it up. If he keeps taking your things, punish him by taking items from him that he adores, and locking them up also, telling him that if he doesn't start following you orders, as it is your home, then he doesn't deserve the things that he takes for granted. It's your electricity, so turn off everything that he is using until he starts to understand. If you don't want those other kids over, talk to their parents about them coming to your house without your permission, and ask them for some help by watching over what their kids are doing. Also, lock up everything you don't want those kids into. They will become bored of your home if there is nothing to do, such as no TV to watch because everything is off, and nothing to get into because everything is locked up. It will be a little inconvenient to you for a little while, but he will start to learn that he can't have everything his way,
Also, sit down with him and talk with him calmly. Tell him you don't mind him staying there, but there is ground rules.
Do not put your foot down, put it in his ****! I mean an immature teen but is 16 and going to college! That is crazy. I cannot fathom how I would have handled college at 16. Take things and privilages away and be firm. Stick to your guns! They have to realize there are ramifications for their actions!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First change the lock so he cant get in.
That puts you in control.
Now consider your own maturity are you grown up enough to accept that this is no longer a child but a young adult who needs desperately your respect and attention just as you did at that age. Get interested in what he is doing o wants to do and in his achievements.
Let him have the shed but make sure he knows about safe sex and drug and alcohol abuse
In short give him his space but only entry into your space on your terms
Above all never forget you were at that stage once
it is very simple, tell him to buck up or buck off
maybe allow him to have friends over... but give him a limit of how many friends... give him a time limit... tell him to ASK you for things instead of just doing them, and give him permission. You just have to experiment a little bit. Don't let him walk all over you... maybe even have a friend drop by to make sure they're not doing anything too horrible but honestly to me he doesn't sound that bad, and to turn a shed into a den for his friends %26amp; he isn't that bad of an idea if you ask me... maybe he just needs his own space?
Time for him to get a job and get out .
What are his consequences for his actions. There must be some kind of reinforcement to make take you seriously. You need to have positive reinforcement, by saying do or else. Then if he does not comply, you need negative reinforcement, by saying he cannot have friends over at all, until he learns to behave. You won't like it at first nor will he, but you need to make him suffer the consequences for not obeying. It is your place of residence, he is basically your guest. That is the biggest thing, reinforcement, otherwise he will continue to walk on you.
Put up with it. You only have 2 years to go, then pack his bags and put them at the oor when he turns 18.
Good luck
he needs to be punished. start taking away things that he loves.
take things back into the house , tell his mates that they can come round but only one or two at a time ,
what's dyspraxia?
anyway,
you're partener??
Any ways,
alright now to start answering: don't doubt anyone of being friendless, and considedring them as an aloof.Anyone can have friends. I am actually friends with one who is mentally challenged. I do not belittle them or anything.
Okay so, just punish him when he is wrong, and tell him to act his age. you the words ';immature'; and ';:mature'; as much as possible when punishing him. also, reward him during his mature decisions and moments. tell him to think things through.
*remember to punish when immature,
and reward when mature.*
Hi, 16 is a very difficult age because young people are still youths and not yet an adult but are expected to be adult all of a sudden. I think at this age, they still need to follow household rules. You should set the rules, be consistent with them and show authority as a parent but not get strappy or shouting as your son will only rebel against you. Good communication is essential. The best approach is to show him that you are listening to what he says and what he wants to do, but also that you both need to reach a compromise. Tell your son that if he wants to move things around in or from the house, then he asks permission first. Maybe you could buy him a TV for his den for a Christmas present? Sounds like your son needs a space to hang out with his mates. Is he allowed to take his mates to another room in the house or keep them to his bedroom rather than all over the house? He is learning to tidy up after himself, so be patient and calmly teach him to do other things that you think he should be doing at home.
Wishing you the best of luck with everything x
Search his room and see if he's doing drugs. Teens can hide a lot... I used to be one. He seems very defiant and untouched at the fact that you are unhappy with his behavior. This is how a lot of teens with an addiction act. If you feel bad about going through his things, don't. He doesn't respect you, therefore he has lost the repect you should otherwise give him. And, NO. He can wait to have his friend's over until he moves into HIS home. That is YOUR home whether he likes it or not. Good luck!
He sort of sounds like fun! Don't worry he'll have his own place to ruin soon enough and you'll probably miss the bugger! Life is horrible that way isn't it? lol.
He's a boy, boys do that stuff. Nothing to flip out about. At least he isn't raping girls and doing drugs.
To be honest, he pretty much sounds like any other teen. If he really won't listen, the only way to stop his mates coming around is to tell their parents and hope that they enforce your rules. Other than that, you could move to a really isolated spot, but I doubt that's the best idea for him and you.
Here are some simple rule:
1. Partners/spouses should ONLY make REQUESTS of each other - no demands or orders should ever be given.
2. Parents should ONLY make DEMANDS/ORDERS of their children - never requests.
3. If a child does not abide by a demand/order, then the child receives an appropriate punishment for failing to obey orders.
4. No failure to obey should go unpunished. A punishment must be given each and every time.
For your situation - I imagine that you will have to lock him out of the house. Take away his key. Tell him to find an after school job or activity or go to the library until you return from work. He should not have access to the house unless an adult is home because he has shown he can't be trusted. Get an alarm system for the house if you must.
Spank his spoiled, ungrateful butt.
Tell him since he can't follow the rules, you'll just have to hire him a babysitter. And do just that. Oh, wait, he's 16 in college. Well, tell him it's time for him to get a job and start pulling his own weight. McDonald's, Hardees, BK, and any other burger joint will hire him. WalMart, KMart, Target, and any other store will hire him. And if he doesn't, have him declared a legal adult and boot his hind end out.
Who is the adult? Then it's time to be that adult! Your house your rules! If he doesn't want to comply, then I would suggest you as a family go for counciling, and get him the help he needs. Tough love is always hard, but the rewards are rewarding. Good Luck! Will keep you all in prayer.
What you are saying doesn't sound very immature to me. It sounds like a typical male teenager. Honestly your only choice is to watch him round the clock. But you say you have a job so you can't do that. You just have to keep nagging hon and hope that he eventually gets it.
Well, try being a more intelligent parent and taking English classes to learn better grammer. Kids learn from their environment. You need to step up and be the adult, put your foot down.
so you told him you dont want his friends there when your at work, so he makes a den down the garden.. and you dont like that either??
whip him!...
no im kidding...
show him some love and do things that he doesnt like , so he can be a good boy .
Monday, July 26, 2010
Advice for a fast way for a teenager to grow over the summer?
I'm am 12 yrs. old going on 13 in August. I'm 5'1 and the majority of my friends are 5'3';+. Even my girlfriends taller than me.( She's 5'2 and 5'3 or 5'4 in heels) I'm constantly being ridiculed for my height such as having to look up to my friends or to tippy toe to kiss my girlfriend. I was told that milk plus lot's of sleep helps you grow up to 5 inches taller. Any other methods? Thanks for all the answersAdvice for a fast way for a teenager to grow over the summer?
sleep. try to get a lot of sleep at night so sleep in. try to get like 10-12 hours. seriously thats why most people grow more in the summer, because they get more sleepAdvice for a fast way for a teenager to grow over the summer?
There is not much you can really do to speed up your growing process.mor
sleep. try to get a lot of sleep at night so sleep in. try to get like 10-12 hours. seriously thats why most people grow more in the summer, because they get more sleepAdvice for a fast way for a teenager to grow over the summer?
There is not much you can really do to speed up your growing process.
What do you think about this teenager dating rules? Please add info, correct & advice.?
Rules:
When you come to our house you will have bible study with me and Sandra before you can spend time with her. You will show manners and respect to us. Greet us once you arrive and say goodbye before you leave.
Please address us with respect unless we tell you other wise. You shall call me Miss Judith and David, Mr. David. Do not think about sex or plan to do it, as that will automatically end the relationship. However, if that thought is in your mind, please speak with your dad. When you come over or go places with us make sure you pants are up to your waist.
Before you enter the house your shoes should be taken off and make sure you have sock on.
Failure to follow our rules will lead to end the relationship.What do you think about this teenager dating rules? Please add info, correct %26amp; advice.?
I think you are delusional. They will just sneak around behind your back and do what they want anyway, so you may as well have realistic rules.
Be home by 8pm.
No one of the opposite sex in your bedroom, you must stay in the living room.
You are not allowed to go anywhere without permisson/parental supervision.
Make sure your child knows about safe sex and the consequences.What do you think about this teenager dating rules? Please add info, correct %26amp; advice.?
You must be kidding right? You cannot force your religion onto someone because they're seeing your daughter. You also cannot tell a teenage boy not to think about sex, that is all they think about at that age. You should however talk to your daughter about sex and waiting until she is ready. For her boyfriend, that is his parents job, I guarantee if he does not listen to his parents about abstaining from sex he will not listen to you. Any house rules you have such as taking the shoes off and pulling up the pants are fine.
Of course in the end what you do is up to you, but if you try to enforce these rules, and scare off a boy, your daughter may start hiding her boyfriends from you.
When you come to our house you will have bible study with me and Sandra before you can spend time with her. You will show manners and respect to us. Greet us once you arrive and say goodbye before you leave.
Please address us with respect unless we tell you other wise. You shall call me Miss Judith and David, Mr. David. Do not think about sex or plan to do it, as that will automatically end the relationship. However, if that thought is in your mind, please speak with your dad. When you come over or go places with us make sure you pants are up to your waist.
Before you enter the house your shoes should be taken off and make sure you have sock on.
Failure to follow our rules will lead to end the relationship.What do you think about this teenager dating rules? Please add info, correct %26amp; advice.?
I think you are delusional. They will just sneak around behind your back and do what they want anyway, so you may as well have realistic rules.
Be home by 8pm.
No one of the opposite sex in your bedroom, you must stay in the living room.
You are not allowed to go anywhere without permisson/parental supervision.
Make sure your child knows about safe sex and the consequences.What do you think about this teenager dating rules? Please add info, correct %26amp; advice.?
You must be kidding right? You cannot force your religion onto someone because they're seeing your daughter. You also cannot tell a teenage boy not to think about sex, that is all they think about at that age. You should however talk to your daughter about sex and waiting until she is ready. For her boyfriend, that is his parents job, I guarantee if he does not listen to his parents about abstaining from sex he will not listen to you. Any house rules you have such as taking the shoes off and pulling up the pants are fine.
Of course in the end what you do is up to you, but if you try to enforce these rules, and scare off a boy, your daughter may start hiding her boyfriends from you.
How do you discipline a teenager daughter. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I have not seen my little sister for almost 6 years because I am in other country. We talked on the phone once in a while. She is now a teenager (15 years old)
This morning my father asked her to write down my contact information. She did not have attention to what I said. She made a mistake again and again. My parent listened to us on the other lines. They told me to my sister that pay more attention. She was upset and hung up the phone. Then, she was crying for no reason. My mom said, my parents want her to go to better high school. She does not want to do that. She complained, cried, and said bad words to my parents.
I was so upset to hear that. However, I tried to tell my parents that she is a teenager. She may act outrage sometimes.
P.S. I was thinking--Well, I was once a teenager, but I did not hung up the phone, cried, and said bad words to other people.
How do you discipline a spoiled teenager?How do you discipline a teenager daughter. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You just have to let her know who is boss.
Your parents need to tell her straight out to cop on and stop being a little girl. Maybe, if you talked to her she might listen. Seeing you're her older more mature sister, She might look up to you and appreciate you more seeing you're not around as often.
If she doesn't stop, your parents need to take action like grounding her, taking away luxuries like Internet, video games, mobile phone etc.
Good Luck. = )How do you discipline a teenager daughter. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
how do you know she's spoiled? like you said, you haven't seen her in 6 years.
maybe something is bugging her.
maybe talking to you made her upset cus she misses you and when your parents got mad at her, she got even more upset.
it could also be hormones. she's going through a lot of changes right now.
instead of punishing her, they should talk to her and find out what's wrong.
Don't indulge her as much in things she wants. Be firm and do whats best for her. The more she complains the less you do. Let her earn what she gets through good behavior.
Hope this helped.
Fred.
Okay she really didn't do anything THAT bad other than using foul language. You're not from America are you?
Depends. If you know what she wants, take it away...bring her into reality...as far as her education goes, it is hard to go from one school to the next... she might be attached to friends, or a boyfriend...One thing that teenagers do not like at all, and that will send them through the roof is seperating them from what they want or feel they need... Things can make a turn for the worse... but if the parents really feel they have to do something about her attitude, considering that the daughter does nothing in return to deserve staying in that school, take her out, and keep taking things away until she realizes that she needs to submit, or compromise.
It is good to be firm, but I think it is always good to let them know you love them.
You do what your should of done when she was in pigtails.
Turn her over the knee and apply heat to her seat.
';..she was crying for no reason...';
if she's in tears, there's something wrong that can't be cured with discipline. Love her, hug her, make her feel safe and keep talking her until you get her to tell you what is really wrong. She may tell you it's something trivial at first, but it's probably something much bigger.
Hey!
Well teenagers are very different. They have much more attitude. One really affective way to discipline them is to take away their cellphone or computer priveliges.
Good Luck!
A %26amp; N
take her creidt cards away and she won't be spoiled. dee dee deee.
Cut all her hair off. Or take away her make up. Or her music. Or tell all her male friends that she farts a lot.
with a sack of oranges
This morning my father asked her to write down my contact information. She did not have attention to what I said. She made a mistake again and again. My parent listened to us on the other lines. They told me to my sister that pay more attention. She was upset and hung up the phone. Then, she was crying for no reason. My mom said, my parents want her to go to better high school. She does not want to do that. She complained, cried, and said bad words to my parents.
I was so upset to hear that. However, I tried to tell my parents that she is a teenager. She may act outrage sometimes.
P.S. I was thinking--Well, I was once a teenager, but I did not hung up the phone, cried, and said bad words to other people.
How do you discipline a spoiled teenager?How do you discipline a teenager daughter. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
You just have to let her know who is boss.
Your parents need to tell her straight out to cop on and stop being a little girl. Maybe, if you talked to her she might listen. Seeing you're her older more mature sister, She might look up to you and appreciate you more seeing you're not around as often.
If she doesn't stop, your parents need to take action like grounding her, taking away luxuries like Internet, video games, mobile phone etc.
Good Luck. = )How do you discipline a teenager daughter. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
how do you know she's spoiled? like you said, you haven't seen her in 6 years.
maybe something is bugging her.
maybe talking to you made her upset cus she misses you and when your parents got mad at her, she got even more upset.
it could also be hormones. she's going through a lot of changes right now.
instead of punishing her, they should talk to her and find out what's wrong.
Don't indulge her as much in things she wants. Be firm and do whats best for her. The more she complains the less you do. Let her earn what she gets through good behavior.
Hope this helped.
Fred.
Okay she really didn't do anything THAT bad other than using foul language. You're not from America are you?
Depends. If you know what she wants, take it away...bring her into reality...as far as her education goes, it is hard to go from one school to the next... she might be attached to friends, or a boyfriend...One thing that teenagers do not like at all, and that will send them through the roof is seperating them from what they want or feel they need... Things can make a turn for the worse... but if the parents really feel they have to do something about her attitude, considering that the daughter does nothing in return to deserve staying in that school, take her out, and keep taking things away until she realizes that she needs to submit, or compromise.
It is good to be firm, but I think it is always good to let them know you love them.
You do what your should of done when she was in pigtails.
Turn her over the knee and apply heat to her seat.
';..she was crying for no reason...';
if she's in tears, there's something wrong that can't be cured with discipline. Love her, hug her, make her feel safe and keep talking her until you get her to tell you what is really wrong. She may tell you it's something trivial at first, but it's probably something much bigger.
Hey!
Well teenagers are very different. They have much more attitude. One really affective way to discipline them is to take away their cellphone or computer priveliges.
Good Luck!
A %26amp; N
take her creidt cards away and she won't be spoiled. dee dee deee.
Cut all her hair off. Or take away her make up. Or her music. Or tell all her male friends that she farts a lot.
with a sack of oranges
So im only a teenager but i was hoping for some advice...?
so there is this guy i know and we went to elem. school together and back then i had a little kid crush on him but he never showed interest in me. we have recently come back into contact and we met up at the movies. a couple days later he texted me just to chat. then out of the blue he asked me who i liked. me, not being a beat-around-the-bush, kinda girl told him that i liked him and he told me he liked me too. We texted all the time then a couple weeks later being curious i asked him whats up with his love life and he said he got a gf. i was so upset. they went out for like a month. she dumped him. a couple days ago we were talking and he asked me again and i said still him and he says sorry i dont want a girlfriend right now. should i wait or should i move on. opinions on the situation?So im only a teenager but i was hoping for some advice...?
It sounds like he just wants you as a friend, not in a romantic way or you would have been his gf by now. If he doesn't want a gf you can't make him want one. Don't wait, move on. Stay friends if you want, but definitely don't wait around, that won't change anything.So im only a teenager but i was hoping for some advice...?
a similar thing happend with me. wait a while and maintain a relationship so he wont forget you, but still respect his decisions. when hes ready, he might ask you out
okk ima teenaer:)
so just move on you dont deseve him hes mean..
like move on show him ur so over him
make him jealous
yaa thats wat i would do so yaa xD
rock on lolz
* best answer * lolz
kick his a-s-s to the curb his not worth it.. he is just playing with your heart..
Listen ii say you move on if hez gonna be like this to you itz not worth waiting...i knoe people always say theres other fish in the sea...which there is....nd sumtimes its hard...wen you really like sumone...but deffinitly move on it seems like you diserve better
dont count him out but dont just wait around still be friends and if he is ready then ask or if u find someone else before he is ready then date them
depends,
go with what you think
sounds like he is playing a game...not such a grown up move oh his part...Why wait around on him to decide to go out with you when its convenient...Don't waste your time! Just ask yourself if you are happy being on the back burner? If the answer is no, then you answered your question...Move on! (thats my vote!)
It sounds like he just wants you as a friend, not in a romantic way or you would have been his gf by now. If he doesn't want a gf you can't make him want one. Don't wait, move on. Stay friends if you want, but definitely don't wait around, that won't change anything.So im only a teenager but i was hoping for some advice...?
a similar thing happend with me. wait a while and maintain a relationship so he wont forget you, but still respect his decisions. when hes ready, he might ask you out
okk ima teenaer:)
so just move on you dont deseve him hes mean..
like move on show him ur so over him
make him jealous
yaa thats wat i would do so yaa xD
rock on lolz
* best answer * lolz
kick his a-s-s to the curb his not worth it.. he is just playing with your heart..
Listen ii say you move on if hez gonna be like this to you itz not worth waiting...i knoe people always say theres other fish in the sea...which there is....nd sumtimes its hard...wen you really like sumone...but deffinitly move on it seems like you diserve better
dont count him out but dont just wait around still be friends and if he is ready then ask or if u find someone else before he is ready then date them
depends,
go with what you think
sounds like he is playing a game...not such a grown up move oh his part...Why wait around on him to decide to go out with you when its convenient...Don't waste your time! Just ask yourself if you are happy being on the back burner? If the answer is no, then you answered your question...Move on! (thats my vote!)
I'm a teenager, and two friends recently died. Any advice?
Hi. Three of my classmates have passed away in the last 11 months, 2 to suicide, 1 to an accident. The most recent was closest to me, and it's been about a month and a half but I'm having trouble dealing. My friends all are too, and I've always been very there for my friends and I always give them advice and they come to me for support. Right now I'm having trouble sorting through my own problems, and I cant stop this constant anxiety about my other friends. I feel like I want to do something to help them, because what if one of them dies next?
Yes, that's how bad it is, we've gotten to the stage where I'm wondering who is next.
Anyway, any advice on reducing anxiety and helping my friends?I'm a teenager, and two friends recently died. Any advice?
i lost a friend to suicide, and let me just tell you it's no easy place to be. the anxiety is completely normal. i was really worried about my friends, especially cause they were all really close to him. if you see your friends showing the same signs your classmates did than tell a counselor. and that's all you can do. it sucks, and you want so bad to be able to help but all you can do is be there for your friends. i went to counseling. and it helped a whole lot. it helps to talk to an adult because sometimes when you talk to your friends they just end up making you feel worse or having more questions than you had before. talking to an adult will help you sort through your own problems, and if your friends have the same questions you could help them too. and once again the anxiety is normal. when my friends would leave my house i would be so scared that it'd be the last time i would see them. but it teaches you to treasure each moment you have with them and and to make up after arguments.
hang in there. and be strong.I'm a teenager, and two friends recently died. Any advice?
well first off u shoudl go c a counselor or therapist and get ur emotions in check and then later on u can tell with ur friends issues later because u cant just help others u need to help urself as well...when u get straightened out then u will know what to do or say to help ur friends better cope with ur lose.
Hope that u feel better soon!
i offer my deepest sympathy.it will hurt but remember they r in a better place.
you definetly need someone to talk to... talking will help... dont try to keep your grieving in..
I'm ver sorry the only thing you can really do is be there for them maybe it could be possible to hold a support group and have them talk about their feelings. Good luck and sorry for your losses.
Sounds like you're not in a great position to be helping your friends. Just concentrate on yourself for a while. A month and a half is not a long time to sort through your feelings. Try some professional counselling if you can arrange it.
Yes, that's how bad it is, we've gotten to the stage where I'm wondering who is next.
Anyway, any advice on reducing anxiety and helping my friends?I'm a teenager, and two friends recently died. Any advice?
i lost a friend to suicide, and let me just tell you it's no easy place to be. the anxiety is completely normal. i was really worried about my friends, especially cause they were all really close to him. if you see your friends showing the same signs your classmates did than tell a counselor. and that's all you can do. it sucks, and you want so bad to be able to help but all you can do is be there for your friends. i went to counseling. and it helped a whole lot. it helps to talk to an adult because sometimes when you talk to your friends they just end up making you feel worse or having more questions than you had before. talking to an adult will help you sort through your own problems, and if your friends have the same questions you could help them too. and once again the anxiety is normal. when my friends would leave my house i would be so scared that it'd be the last time i would see them. but it teaches you to treasure each moment you have with them and and to make up after arguments.
hang in there. and be strong.I'm a teenager, and two friends recently died. Any advice?
well first off u shoudl go c a counselor or therapist and get ur emotions in check and then later on u can tell with ur friends issues later because u cant just help others u need to help urself as well...when u get straightened out then u will know what to do or say to help ur friends better cope with ur lose.
Hope that u feel better soon!
i offer my deepest sympathy.it will hurt but remember they r in a better place.
you definetly need someone to talk to... talking will help... dont try to keep your grieving in..
I'm ver sorry the only thing you can really do is be there for them maybe it could be possible to hold a support group and have them talk about their feelings. Good luck and sorry for your losses.
Sounds like you're not in a great position to be helping your friends. Just concentrate on yourself for a while. A month and a half is not a long time to sort through your feelings. Try some professional counselling if you can arrange it.
What is the best advice you can give for a teenager about school?
Okay, I am in the 9th grade, and this year, I went to a prep high school. I am switching back to public school, and ive realized that EVERYONE has changed. Whether is was sending nude pictures around school, having sex in the bathroom, drinking, or doing drugs. I was shocked to realize what was happening. I deffinetly think this year has changed me a lot, but in a good way. It has taught me a lot about life, but im still kind of nervous for 10th grade at the other school. Im afraid that I wont stay true to myself and end up having sex and doing drugs? Help, I need advice! By the way, im 14. OH, and im sorry that this doesn't belong in womens health, but I thought a lot of girls that have been through high school would be on here, so I thought this was the best place to post. :)What is the best advice you can give for a teenager about school?
Every school has its cliques (popular kids, jocks, nerds, druggies, etc). That's an unavoidable fact no matter where you are. High schools are not bad teen Lifetime movies... Everywhere has some kids who are into experimenting, and partying. As you should already know, choose your friends wisely. If someone starts leading you down a road you don't want to go down, stop being friends with him/her. You'll be fine.What is the best advice you can give for a teenager about school?
It's alright to be nervous but stick up for yourself. If you don't want to have sex, don't do it and don't let anyone pressure you into it. If you don't want to experiment with drugs or drinking, don't. Tell your friends your not into that sort of thing, they should understand. If they don't, and your uncomfortable, maybe you should try meeting new friends...
High school is a great experience, just know going in, if you don't want to do something, you don't have to. It looks a lot better if you say no and really mean it, than if you say no and do it anyway, because you were pressured, then people think they can take advantage of that...just try to be confident in yourself.
Okay honestly high schools are not that bad! Grow a back bone dear. If you stick to your morals and your ethics first and foremost you will do well. You do learn a lot about this life in high school, where else would you learn. High school is not the place to experiment. Work hard now and when you are older it will pay off.
In all honesty, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
My group of friends do have wild parties, but they don't care if you don't want to do something.
It's all good.
Make friends that don't care if you refuse to do something...because they're actually real friends.
If you're going to experiment with stuff...
don't do too much, or do it smart.
Good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine!
Well I had of that experience to in my middle school.Try to make friend who are not doing drugs,and sex in the bathroom.Stay out of trouble.Alot of people have party's at there house check it out because usally end's up drug's and sex.My advice would stay away from those people.
do whatever you want to dont let peer pressure effect u.
i go to private
well I'm 19 and graduated in may and i spent three years in a public high school it was a small school but still had the drinking and sex going on and i never did drugs or was drinking or had sex cuz i wanted to be a roll model for my nephews to look up to and others kids or teenagers to see that it is possible to stay a virgin though high school and not drink or do drugs so just stand ur ground and if u don't want to do something just say no and stick to it no matter what cuz later in life it's what u think of urself as that matters and not what ppl think so as long as u stand for ur beliefs ur'll be fine and don't do something just becuz everyone is doing it be different and most of all be urself and if ppl don't like it then u don't need them as Friends cuz ur true friends won't try and talk u into doing something u don't want or not ready to do yet so be strong and ur life is just beginning so good luck and make good choices. and if u ever need to talk just e-mail me, i have the e-mail thing open for ppl to e-mail me so i wish u luck.:)
Well I left high school a long time ago but I know it is difficult cause you may feel the need to fit in but in all your efforts remain true to yourself don't change to be popular or do what everybody else is doing I know it is not easy but for me it worked I never did what the rest were doing believe me being popular does not determine how you will turn out in life but be focused on your school work at all times remember ';time lost can never be regained';. If you have any further troubles talk to your parent/parents you are young and smart take care of yourself and make the best out of your life.
don't give in to peer pressure.
the only drug i'd ever recommend is weed, but even that you should wait until you're a little bit older. if anyone offers you anything, simply say no. i'm an upcoming junior in high school.. all my friends are seniors, and neither me nor my friends could care less if someone doesn't wanna smoke or drink with us. we'll still chill with them. and i know a lot of the kids around here are the same (they won't mind if you decline 'partying' with them) so i doubt you have anything to worry about. high school really isn't how movies make it out to be... although yours seems like it might be, because i can't say i know anyone whos had sex in the bathroom.. that's kind of gross.
anyway, don't even worry. just be you. if you don't wanna do anything that you have to second-guess, don't. it's that simple. if anyone has a problem with that, fxck them.
Hang out with people who mainly don't do these things. And if some of your friends do try these things then you just don't do it with them. I was very focussed in high school and really got good marks, etc., but never felt left out or unpopular. It is possible :)
When you stand by your own ideals and morals for yourself, people respect that and anyone who doesn't respect that isn't really someone you want to be around.
Also, I think you will find that it is only a small group that does all this stuff you mentioned. It just seems like everyone.
Every school has its cliques (popular kids, jocks, nerds, druggies, etc). That's an unavoidable fact no matter where you are. High schools are not bad teen Lifetime movies... Everywhere has some kids who are into experimenting, and partying. As you should already know, choose your friends wisely. If someone starts leading you down a road you don't want to go down, stop being friends with him/her. You'll be fine.What is the best advice you can give for a teenager about school?
It's alright to be nervous but stick up for yourself. If you don't want to have sex, don't do it and don't let anyone pressure you into it. If you don't want to experiment with drugs or drinking, don't. Tell your friends your not into that sort of thing, they should understand. If they don't, and your uncomfortable, maybe you should try meeting new friends...
High school is a great experience, just know going in, if you don't want to do something, you don't have to. It looks a lot better if you say no and really mean it, than if you say no and do it anyway, because you were pressured, then people think they can take advantage of that...just try to be confident in yourself.
Okay honestly high schools are not that bad! Grow a back bone dear. If you stick to your morals and your ethics first and foremost you will do well. You do learn a lot about this life in high school, where else would you learn. High school is not the place to experiment. Work hard now and when you are older it will pay off.
In all honesty, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
My group of friends do have wild parties, but they don't care if you don't want to do something.
It's all good.
Make friends that don't care if you refuse to do something...because they're actually real friends.
If you're going to experiment with stuff...
don't do too much, or do it smart.
Good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine!
Well I had of that experience to in my middle school.Try to make friend who are not doing drugs,and sex in the bathroom.Stay out of trouble.Alot of people have party's at there house check it out because usally end's up drug's and sex.My advice would stay away from those people.
do whatever you want to dont let peer pressure effect u.
i go to private
well I'm 19 and graduated in may and i spent three years in a public high school it was a small school but still had the drinking and sex going on and i never did drugs or was drinking or had sex cuz i wanted to be a roll model for my nephews to look up to and others kids or teenagers to see that it is possible to stay a virgin though high school and not drink or do drugs so just stand ur ground and if u don't want to do something just say no and stick to it no matter what cuz later in life it's what u think of urself as that matters and not what ppl think so as long as u stand for ur beliefs ur'll be fine and don't do something just becuz everyone is doing it be different and most of all be urself and if ppl don't like it then u don't need them as Friends cuz ur true friends won't try and talk u into doing something u don't want or not ready to do yet so be strong and ur life is just beginning so good luck and make good choices. and if u ever need to talk just e-mail me, i have the e-mail thing open for ppl to e-mail me so i wish u luck.:)
Well I left high school a long time ago but I know it is difficult cause you may feel the need to fit in but in all your efforts remain true to yourself don't change to be popular or do what everybody else is doing I know it is not easy but for me it worked I never did what the rest were doing believe me being popular does not determine how you will turn out in life but be focused on your school work at all times remember ';time lost can never be regained';. If you have any further troubles talk to your parent/parents you are young and smart take care of yourself and make the best out of your life.
don't give in to peer pressure.
the only drug i'd ever recommend is weed, but even that you should wait until you're a little bit older. if anyone offers you anything, simply say no. i'm an upcoming junior in high school.. all my friends are seniors, and neither me nor my friends could care less if someone doesn't wanna smoke or drink with us. we'll still chill with them. and i know a lot of the kids around here are the same (they won't mind if you decline 'partying' with them) so i doubt you have anything to worry about. high school really isn't how movies make it out to be... although yours seems like it might be, because i can't say i know anyone whos had sex in the bathroom.. that's kind of gross.
anyway, don't even worry. just be you. if you don't wanna do anything that you have to second-guess, don't. it's that simple. if anyone has a problem with that, fxck them.
Hang out with people who mainly don't do these things. And if some of your friends do try these things then you just don't do it with them. I was very focussed in high school and really got good marks, etc., but never felt left out or unpopular. It is possible :)
When you stand by your own ideals and morals for yourself, people respect that and anyone who doesn't respect that isn't really someone you want to be around.
Also, I think you will find that it is only a small group that does all this stuff you mentioned. It just seems like everyone.
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