i need someone to talk to but i dont want to go to a therapist just some one to listen i dont have anyone at this point and i cant take it. Im 16.Anybody that has great advice for a panic attack/crying teenager?
It helps when someone (or yourself) calmly reminds you that it is only a panic attack. Try to take deep breaths and relax your shoulders. Remind yourself it is not real - only a panic attack. Try to do something that takes your focus away from the situation. Like washing the dishes, cleaning, or go for a walk.
If you have been diagnosed with a medical illness or have a history of panic attacks you should talk to your doctor.Anybody that has great advice for a panic attack/crying teenager?
Ok for panic attacks breathing helps i have asthma so i get panic attacks every once in awhile. Also if you need someone to talk, try a close friend, teachers at school, someone you trust. Also if you don't have anyone to talk to at all that you trust try writing it down in a journal... if that still doesn't help I can talk to you but you probably wouldn't be comfortable talking to someone you don't know... :) you can pull through whatever it is you are going through
Even though you don't want to go to a therapist you need to for the correct medication to control your panic attacks. Actually you need to see a psychiatrist (a MD or DO) because only a psychiatrist can prescribe medications. Therapists, psychologists and other counselors can't.
Doctors are there to help you and you won't be able to rid yourself of these attacks without one. Panic attacks are caused by anxiety.
yoga just buy a book or a video from the store
turn on some random music like the sounds of the beach waves, or a waterfall, etc
it feels soooo good you'd be suprised, and it would help you learn about clear breathing, because that's one of the sole purposes.
a therapist would be a good idea, I always left mine feeling quite refreshed
but if you really dont want to , write in a journal
its sounds tacky and cliched, but it helps, because not only does it release the same amount of tension as talking to somebody, but it also helps you sort through your thoughts and look back on what you've said before
i turned mine into a project, and for every page I wrote, I would make a collage on the back of it, just stuff expressing my emotions and all that stuff
(: i know that makes me sound like an obnoxious wannabe artist girl or something annoying along those lines but the collage just made writing in a journal more creative, and i needed a journal so that i could feel like i had someone to talk to
:D hope you feel better
i would always consider talking to a good friend about some personal problems also you could write down off your feelings of angst, frustration or whatever else may plague you, put it in an envelope and keep them somewhere just to get it off of your chest
or do what i do and i just listen to music, go over things that i am having private issues with by reviewing them in my head, and hopefully i can just feel better by trying to forget (feels more like suppression which i am sure cannot be good.. but meh)
but i think it may also depend on the severity of what might be wrong.
Read.
Write.
Things like that distract you. I know, I'm 14 and I have been through lots of depression. It sucks. All you need to do is realize that you aren't the only person that's upset in this world. Ahh, therapists are too reliable. You need to see one. I did. Don't be embarrassed it doesn't mean you're crazy(:
They can help you get stuff out.
That's just my suggestions, at leasttt.
An emotional problem no doubt, complicating your health.. Your doctor would likely prescribe a ten-day regimen of a tranquilizer, declining through the last 4 days. And you definitely should consult with your physician.
breathe
therapist is a musttt
there good!!
talk to your parents
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Teenager/youth/yob/chav problem please give advice?
Whenever I'm faced by a yob or chav I can't controll myself, I always shake. Not if I see one or one walks past me and gives me a dirty look or anything, just if a chav starts squaring up to me or having a go. Like for example, the other day I was walking home and this chav who I could definately take starts having a go at me for no reason, just gives me a look and I say what or something and it goes on from there, and even if it is 100% impossible that he couldn't beat me up if things were to get out of hand, like if he was a couple of years younger than me and I had a friend, I would still embarisangly shake loads, causing them to laugh and take the piss. I need more confidence and to be able to keep my emotions/shaking in.Teenager/youth/yob/chav problem please give advice?
you need to be more confident
you have no reason to fear them
i also have the same problem
a few years back i was so confident and went out a lot with a friend
i then went to visit my cousin miles away from my town
while out with her i got beaten up i was 13
the person that beat me up was 12
they started taking pictures and recording
ididn'tt go out for ages after that i lost all my confidence and have only just started going out
i still never go out at night
you need to think in your head that nothing bad willhappenn to you try to look like youhaven'tt got a care in the world
you need to be more confident
you have no reason to fear them
i also have the same problem
a few years back i was so confident and went out a lot with a friend
i then went to visit my cousin miles away from my town
while out with her i got beaten up i was 13
the person that beat me up was 12
they started taking pictures and recording
ididn'tt go out for ages after that i lost all my confidence and have only just started going out
i still never go out at night
you need to think in your head that nothing bad willhappenn to you try to look like youhaven'tt got a care in the world
Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
We've been to both individual and family counseling for almost 2 years. Teenager's behavior/mood have not improved. Internalizes anger. Doesn't cooperate with anyone at home or at school. Feels respect is not due to anyone on earth ever (not parents, teachers, or anyone in authoritative figure). Narcissistic. Sense of self entitlement. Bad grades. Never finishes school or home work. Never completes chores. No interest in anything. Hates the world and everyone in it.... I'm spent. HELP!!! Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
Oh, wow...I can really empathize with what you're going through. My 30-year old daughter is bipolar, and I've cried buckets of tears with the frustration, worry, and disappointment from her endless drama.
For my daughter, all the counseling and psycho-analysis in the world wouldn't have changed a thing. She didn't begin resembling a human until she finally found a good mental health doctor who knows the right mix of meds that she needed. Is your teen on any meds? Don't let friends, family, or neighbors shame you into refusing to get your teen on meds. Dealing with mental illness is a nightmare, and unfair as it feels, the buck stops with we poor parents. So, be an aggressive advocate for your teen's needs (as well as the needs of you and your family for a little peace and control).
Also, if you've been seeing the same therapist all this time without progress, then get a new one. If patient and therapist don't ';click';, there will be no progress at all. If your family doctor won't prescribe meds, then find one who will. Find a mental health support group aimed at helping families cope.
Also, read through the good points on the Mayo Clinic's website, just in case there's something there you have't already tried. Depending on how old your teen is, you might have to being the process of ';detatching'; yourself from the drama - if it's possible at this stage.
God, I really feel for you. Best of luck!!Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
Thank you all for your suggestions. They are greatly appreciated.
Odd? no it isn't..... HARD - truly!
This is harder than usual because you have absolutely NO CONTROL over how your son behaves or thinks and any attempts at normal parenting or discipline are no doubt USELESS - am I right?
You have to realize that you have a DISABLED CHILD - that won't make him any easier but you have to start viewing HIM differently and remember that it may never change and somehow come to terms with WHO HE IS now - for the better or worse.
I know being a parent really sucks sometimes (I have 4 also) and we can't stop being one EVER - even at times such as this. Certainly there has to be some support groups in your area. YOU need some local, friendly, compassionate ears and friends who understand are are going through the same thing as you. Check your local counselors office for referrals. It might give you some degree of BREAK. I'm so sorry.... you do sound SPENT.
try finding something they like. anything. they cant possibly hate everything.
God help you.
Sorry .. this matches some symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and that requires long term institutional care to help.
Symptoms
The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder revolve around a pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and sense of entitlement. Often individuals feel overly important and will exaggerate achievements and will accept, and often demand, praise and admiration despite worthy achievements. They may be overwhelmed with fantasies involving unlimited success, power, love, or beauty and feel that they can only be understood by others who are, like them, superior in some aspect of life.There is a sense of entitlement, of being more deserving than others based solely on their superiority. These symptoms, however, are a result of an underlying sense of inferiority and are often seen as overcompensation. Because of this, they are often envious and even angry of others who have more, receive more respect or attention, or otherwise steal away the spotlight.
just keep weapons out of his reach. Don't let him get interested in them. Limit his exposure to violent influences.. Let him feel free to talk and don't be judgmental..even if warranted.. you just want to see where his mind is ..and make sure he's not planning on something rash against you.. . .. more opposition. give two choices when asking for tasks..and stay near by till completed.. help him along..encourage him but don't be confrontational..
might need to look at a small faith based alternative school for completing his education.. if you have a belief system start there.. ..if not homeschooling is not an option..
You can look into your county or state institutions. They have programs that will help shelter teens that have concerns that overwhelm parents. .. Texas has such programs with mhmr..
The programs help the kids learn to deal with their families in more meaningful ways and help families learn to work through the problems. .. and find permanent solutions with out ';ongoing therapy'; that could drain a families pockets.
The programs usually are as needed. .. some are in house sheltering programs and some are done out patient basis.
This is from the dsm
http://allpsych.com/disorders/personalit鈥?/a>
and from working with kids with similar and worse issues.
Oh, wow...I can really empathize with what you're going through. My 30-year old daughter is bipolar, and I've cried buckets of tears with the frustration, worry, and disappointment from her endless drama.
For my daughter, all the counseling and psycho-analysis in the world wouldn't have changed a thing. She didn't begin resembling a human until she finally found a good mental health doctor who knows the right mix of meds that she needed. Is your teen on any meds? Don't let friends, family, or neighbors shame you into refusing to get your teen on meds. Dealing with mental illness is a nightmare, and unfair as it feels, the buck stops with we poor parents. So, be an aggressive advocate for your teen's needs (as well as the needs of you and your family for a little peace and control).
Also, if you've been seeing the same therapist all this time without progress, then get a new one. If patient and therapist don't ';click';, there will be no progress at all. If your family doctor won't prescribe meds, then find one who will. Find a mental health support group aimed at helping families cope.
Also, read through the good points on the Mayo Clinic's website, just in case there's something there you have't already tried. Depending on how old your teen is, you might have to being the process of ';detatching'; yourself from the drama - if it's possible at this stage.
God, I really feel for you. Best of luck!!Anyone have good advice for a mom of a teenager with oppositional defiance disorder (odd)?
Thank you all for your suggestions. They are greatly appreciated.
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Odd? no it isn't..... HARD - truly!
This is harder than usual because you have absolutely NO CONTROL over how your son behaves or thinks and any attempts at normal parenting or discipline are no doubt USELESS - am I right?
You have to realize that you have a DISABLED CHILD - that won't make him any easier but you have to start viewing HIM differently and remember that it may never change and somehow come to terms with WHO HE IS now - for the better or worse.
I know being a parent really sucks sometimes (I have 4 also) and we can't stop being one EVER - even at times such as this. Certainly there has to be some support groups in your area. YOU need some local, friendly, compassionate ears and friends who understand are are going through the same thing as you. Check your local counselors office for referrals. It might give you some degree of BREAK. I'm so sorry.... you do sound SPENT.
try finding something they like. anything. they cant possibly hate everything.
God help you.
Sorry .. this matches some symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and that requires long term institutional care to help.
Symptoms
The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder revolve around a pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and sense of entitlement. Often individuals feel overly important and will exaggerate achievements and will accept, and often demand, praise and admiration despite worthy achievements. They may be overwhelmed with fantasies involving unlimited success, power, love, or beauty and feel that they can only be understood by others who are, like them, superior in some aspect of life.There is a sense of entitlement, of being more deserving than others based solely on their superiority. These symptoms, however, are a result of an underlying sense of inferiority and are often seen as overcompensation. Because of this, they are often envious and even angry of others who have more, receive more respect or attention, or otherwise steal away the spotlight.
just keep weapons out of his reach. Don't let him get interested in them. Limit his exposure to violent influences.. Let him feel free to talk and don't be judgmental..even if warranted.. you just want to see where his mind is ..and make sure he's not planning on something rash against you.. . .. more opposition. give two choices when asking for tasks..and stay near by till completed.. help him along..encourage him but don't be confrontational..
might need to look at a small faith based alternative school for completing his education.. if you have a belief system start there.. ..if not homeschooling is not an option..
You can look into your county or state institutions. They have programs that will help shelter teens that have concerns that overwhelm parents. .. Texas has such programs with mhmr..
The programs help the kids learn to deal with their families in more meaningful ways and help families learn to work through the problems. .. and find permanent solutions with out ';ongoing therapy'; that could drain a families pockets.
The programs usually are as needed. .. some are in house sheltering programs and some are done out patient basis.
This is from the dsm
http://allpsych.com/disorders/personalit鈥?/a>
and from working with kids with similar and worse issues.
Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
Parents...
What would you want to do to help if your teenager was being discriminated against (by a supposed friend) at their part-time job because they were gay?
What advice/suggestions would you have for the gay teenager, the discriminator and both of their parents?
You don't have to be able to relate to the situation! Any advice is welcome!!
Thanks!Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
My advise to him/her would be to keep your head up. A lot of people don't get down with gays. As a parent myself who is teaching my kids to not be with the same sex, it still might happened. They have to be strong for themselves. People are not going to change! He/she has to find their inner strength and build off that. He/she needs to be around positive people. As far as the parents goes. No matter what he/she may be or who they may love. We as parents need to love them unconditional. They are of our blood, our flesh, our tears, our pain, our heart and our understanding.Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
You didn't say if it's boys or girls or both. And you didn't mention what you mean by discriminate.
If he or she is physically able to beat the stuffing out of this alleged friend it'd send a message. That'd be the most desirable outcome in my opinion.
Otherwise he/she could try reporting the undesired behavior to the employer but that's chancy. What employer wants to get in the middle of this sort of thing?
Lastly he/she could quit and get another job and reflect on the wisdom of the Don't Ask/Don't Tell policy.
Tell him/her to decide exactly what place this person has in their life %26amp; then how much power their words have over their day. Ur child has the right like every1 else to be all of themselves and no 1 else. Ur child has to believe that 4 every1 else around them to (whether they admit it/not).
Ask your teenager to conform to the rest of the World instead of expecting the World to change. Leave sex at home. Go to work to do his or her job and keep the private life private.
tell them to stop acting gay and it will all go away
What would you want to do to help if your teenager was being discriminated against (by a supposed friend) at their part-time job because they were gay?
What advice/suggestions would you have for the gay teenager, the discriminator and both of their parents?
You don't have to be able to relate to the situation! Any advice is welcome!!
Thanks!Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
My advise to him/her would be to keep your head up. A lot of people don't get down with gays. As a parent myself who is teaching my kids to not be with the same sex, it still might happened. They have to be strong for themselves. People are not going to change! He/she has to find their inner strength and build off that. He/she needs to be around positive people. As far as the parents goes. No matter what he/she may be or who they may love. We as parents need to love them unconditional. They are of our blood, our flesh, our tears, our pain, our heart and our understanding.Parents, what advice do you have if your teenager is being discriminated against at work because they were gay?
You didn't say if it's boys or girls or both. And you didn't mention what you mean by discriminate.
If he or she is physically able to beat the stuffing out of this alleged friend it'd send a message. That'd be the most desirable outcome in my opinion.
Otherwise he/she could try reporting the undesired behavior to the employer but that's chancy. What employer wants to get in the middle of this sort of thing?
Lastly he/she could quit and get another job and reflect on the wisdom of the Don't Ask/Don't Tell policy.
Tell him/her to decide exactly what place this person has in their life %26amp; then how much power their words have over their day. Ur child has the right like every1 else to be all of themselves and no 1 else. Ur child has to believe that 4 every1 else around them to (whether they admit it/not).
Ask your teenager to conform to the rest of the World instead of expecting the World to change. Leave sex at home. Go to work to do his or her job and keep the private life private.
tell them to stop acting gay and it will all go away
I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
I am trying to become more of a young gentleman (I am 17) in Scotland. However, I have concern as to how I should address a lady in conversation, particularly older women for example, aged 40 and over (not that I am implying that 40 is old, it's just an example! :D)
I work in a store where I am expected to address customers properly. I know how to address men e.g. ';Good afternoon, Sir'; but I have a problem as to how to address older ladies. Do I address her as ';Miss';, ';Madam'; or ';Ma'am';?
I would greatly appreciate any answers. And thank you :)I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Oh you are lovely. And a rare breed. There is so little courtesy these days among younger people. I am not blaming them. It is just not taught these days. Though in the Baltic States men are expected to be corteous. There it is the women who have the trouble!
You just say ';Good afternoon, Madam.'; regardless of whether the lady is married or not. You often cannot tell these days. Married ladies do not always wear rings on their ring finger or unmarried ones wear a ring on that finger, and I have never been able to discern the difference between an engagement ring or a wedding ring. Or, if you know their name, then Miss/Mrs Bloggs.
Ask their opinion on something and open doors, pull out chairs for ladies and offer your seat when a bus or train is full or something. But I am sure you do that anyway. It is good to have manners and costs nothing but will earn you respect.I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Miss is generally for a young woman who is not married.
Ma'am would be a response for any woman older then you, and Madam is very formal.
A safe bet would be to use ma'am as often as possible.
If you are dealing with someone who is highly respectable, (a mayor or clergyman's wife,) Madam would be more appropriate.
Hope that helps.
Address them as Ma'am. And always smile...Offer help whenever you can, but not too much to seem overexercised about your job...
Address her as Ms. not Miss bc she might be married! Ma'am for women a little older than her 40s. Some women don't like being called Ma'am because it makes them feel old.
I am 36 and HATE it when young men call me Madam..it makes me feel old. Dont call them anything.
I work in a store where I am expected to address customers properly. I know how to address men e.g. ';Good afternoon, Sir'; but I have a problem as to how to address older ladies. Do I address her as ';Miss';, ';Madam'; or ';Ma'am';?
I would greatly appreciate any answers. And thank you :)I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Oh you are lovely. And a rare breed. There is so little courtesy these days among younger people. I am not blaming them. It is just not taught these days. Though in the Baltic States men are expected to be corteous. There it is the women who have the trouble!
You just say ';Good afternoon, Madam.'; regardless of whether the lady is married or not. You often cannot tell these days. Married ladies do not always wear rings on their ring finger or unmarried ones wear a ring on that finger, and I have never been able to discern the difference between an engagement ring or a wedding ring. Or, if you know their name, then Miss/Mrs Bloggs.
Ask their opinion on something and open doors, pull out chairs for ladies and offer your seat when a bus or train is full or something. But I am sure you do that anyway. It is good to have manners and costs nothing but will earn you respect.I need advice in social etiquette (for a teenager in UK)?
Miss is generally for a young woman who is not married.
Ma'am would be a response for any woman older then you, and Madam is very formal.
A safe bet would be to use ma'am as often as possible.
If you are dealing with someone who is highly respectable, (a mayor or clergyman's wife,) Madam would be more appropriate.
Hope that helps.
Address them as Ma'am. And always smile...Offer help whenever you can, but not too much to seem overexercised about your job...
Address her as Ms. not Miss bc she might be married! Ma'am for women a little older than her 40s. Some women don't like being called Ma'am because it makes them feel old.
I am 36 and HATE it when young men call me Madam..it makes me feel old. Dont call them anything.
I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
I am 13 years old. I have been enjoying the kids world for years. Because many teenagers like to have sex but I don't want it. It's disguisting. To avoid from being a teenager, I must avoid the characteristics.Teenagers like the opposote gender. So I hate the opposite gender [what I mean is in school]. Teenagers like to hear music. So I hate to hear music - people singning. And there are many other caharacteristics that I avoid. But I'm getting used to it, I suddenly like the opposite gender, like to hear music, like to talk to the opposite gender and others. HOW to avoid those things?
I've used the hateness method but somehow the love feeling creeped slowly into my heart..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
I am sorry to tell you that becoming a teenager is something you can't stop. It happens and you have to understand that you can be a teenager without having sex or drinking or smoking or doing drugs..Those are choices you have to make as you grow up. Of course you are going to have peer pressure,but you can be strong and tell them you don't believe in underage sex and drinking or smoking or drugs of any kind. There is nothing wrong with being a teenager, just make informed decisions about things. Don't do something because everyone else is! You will be fine if you are always true to your own beliefs and listen to yourself and not the pressures from kids at school.. Parents do understand about being a teenager too, they were teenagers once. Talk to them about how you are feeling, they may have somethings to tell you that you never thought of.. Enjoy teen life and may God bless you..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
You may not be able to control the attraction to the opposite sex or other things teens like but there are many things you CAN control like if and when you have sex....the people you hang out with...the stuff you do in your spare time. Find other teens with similar attitudes and ideas and you can give each other support. As far as sex goes.....there no certain time that has to happen. You can wait forever if you want to. No one should pressure you into it. Stand your ground and just be yourself. If people bully or pressure you they aren't good people to hang around with. Enjoy this time while you can because it goes by quickly and you can't get these years back again so don't let it slip away because of fear. Try to enjoy something in each day. Let the teen things happen naturally. Don't try to suppress them you'll drive yourself crazy. just stay in control and you'll be fine. Surround yourself with people that care about you. Good luck in your life.
Just because you are becoming a teenager doesn't mean you can't still be a kid. Don't rush growing up so fast and enjoy thos teenage years. The feeling that go along with being a teenager are normal and I don't think that you can stop them. just deal with them the best of your ability
There's no law that says you have to have sex.
I think you're being silly, if the reason you hate music is because you think only teens love music.
I haven't been a teen for decades, and I've always loved music, from before teen years, and through them, and after.
Not liking music doesn't keep you a child.
There's no way to stay a child.
Children grow, and eventually become adults. That's how it works.
But where you got all these ideas that you have to do this, that, or the other, just because you're a teen I don't know.
Avoiding the characteristics (as you see them -- they have nothing to do with being a teen, BTW) doesn't make you not be a teen.
But then you don't HAVE to have sex either, if that's all you're trying to avoid.
Eventually you probably will, but by then you won't hate the idea.
Why don't you just be who you are, and like what you like, and dislike what you dislike?
That makes a lot more sense than making up a bunch of silly rules for oneself, just because you don't understand what it means to grow up.
stick to your books, that will help and you will also get good grade. besides before you know it you will be all those things you hate. it happens
I'm going to be an adult. I'm 20 in 18 days. Goodbye, teenagehood!
I too have tried the hateness method. I hate people who work. I hate work. I hate responsibility. I sleep in all day (then wonder why I'm tired and grumpy and vitamin D deprived).
But somehow, adult-ness has crept up on me. I'm politically active; I follow the news; I'm getting a car and a job; and I've decided idiots who sleep all day for no reason deserve their depression. I'm also the main chef/cleaner/account keeper for my house (in which I am the youngest member); and I even do the grocery shopping!
Somehow, life sneaks these things up on you.
So being a kid was fun. Write about it. Get all the things you love about being a kid down on paper, then keep it somewhere safe for when you're older. Then, find out why people love being teenagers so much. For instance; more freedom to hang out with friends; more interesting hobbies; wider social groups; interesting work within some pretty awesome hours... and the holidays! (Have you ever heard of a non-teacher-adult who got 10 weeks off their job every year?!) And not every teenager either wants or does have sex. Plenty wait for the right time/person or marriage to get involved in that. (Which is a very smart decision!)
Not everything about being a teenager sucks. I just wish I'd realised what I had before I let it get away from me!!!!!!!
Good luck. Have fun!!! And don't forget to enjoy the ride... Coz whether you want it or not... It's there. =)
';Ah! my boy. Into every life a little rain must fall. '; You can avoid life's torrential downpour if you get into intensive therapy NOW%26gt;
You don't have to ';grow up'; even though you're turning 14. Heck I'm still a kid at almost 26. Follow your own pace and do what YOU enjoy. As for sex ... you don't have to start thinking about that for another 5 (or 15) years if you don't want to.
Relax and enjoy YOUR life. You don't have to try to avoid OR pressure yourself into anything.
Another thing ... it's normal and OK to hate something one day and love it the next.eye
I've used the hateness method but somehow the love feeling creeped slowly into my heart..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
I am sorry to tell you that becoming a teenager is something you can't stop. It happens and you have to understand that you can be a teenager without having sex or drinking or smoking or doing drugs..Those are choices you have to make as you grow up. Of course you are going to have peer pressure,but you can be strong and tell them you don't believe in underage sex and drinking or smoking or drugs of any kind. There is nothing wrong with being a teenager, just make informed decisions about things. Don't do something because everyone else is! You will be fine if you are always true to your own beliefs and listen to yourself and not the pressures from kids at school.. Parents do understand about being a teenager too, they were teenagers once. Talk to them about how you are feeling, they may have somethings to tell you that you never thought of.. Enjoy teen life and may God bless you..I need some advice about my life - I'm going to be a teenager but I don't want to.?
You may not be able to control the attraction to the opposite sex or other things teens like but there are many things you CAN control like if and when you have sex....the people you hang out with...the stuff you do in your spare time. Find other teens with similar attitudes and ideas and you can give each other support. As far as sex goes.....there no certain time that has to happen. You can wait forever if you want to. No one should pressure you into it. Stand your ground and just be yourself. If people bully or pressure you they aren't good people to hang around with. Enjoy this time while you can because it goes by quickly and you can't get these years back again so don't let it slip away because of fear. Try to enjoy something in each day. Let the teen things happen naturally. Don't try to suppress them you'll drive yourself crazy. just stay in control and you'll be fine. Surround yourself with people that care about you. Good luck in your life.
Just because you are becoming a teenager doesn't mean you can't still be a kid. Don't rush growing up so fast and enjoy thos teenage years. The feeling that go along with being a teenager are normal and I don't think that you can stop them. just deal with them the best of your ability
There's no law that says you have to have sex.
I think you're being silly, if the reason you hate music is because you think only teens love music.
I haven't been a teen for decades, and I've always loved music, from before teen years, and through them, and after.
Not liking music doesn't keep you a child.
There's no way to stay a child.
Children grow, and eventually become adults. That's how it works.
But where you got all these ideas that you have to do this, that, or the other, just because you're a teen I don't know.
Avoiding the characteristics (as you see them -- they have nothing to do with being a teen, BTW) doesn't make you not be a teen.
But then you don't HAVE to have sex either, if that's all you're trying to avoid.
Eventually you probably will, but by then you won't hate the idea.
Why don't you just be who you are, and like what you like, and dislike what you dislike?
That makes a lot more sense than making up a bunch of silly rules for oneself, just because you don't understand what it means to grow up.
stick to your books, that will help and you will also get good grade. besides before you know it you will be all those things you hate. it happens
I'm going to be an adult. I'm 20 in 18 days. Goodbye, teenagehood!
I too have tried the hateness method. I hate people who work. I hate work. I hate responsibility. I sleep in all day (then wonder why I'm tired and grumpy and vitamin D deprived).
But somehow, adult-ness has crept up on me. I'm politically active; I follow the news; I'm getting a car and a job; and I've decided idiots who sleep all day for no reason deserve their depression. I'm also the main chef/cleaner/account keeper for my house (in which I am the youngest member); and I even do the grocery shopping!
Somehow, life sneaks these things up on you.
So being a kid was fun. Write about it. Get all the things you love about being a kid down on paper, then keep it somewhere safe for when you're older. Then, find out why people love being teenagers so much. For instance; more freedom to hang out with friends; more interesting hobbies; wider social groups; interesting work within some pretty awesome hours... and the holidays! (Have you ever heard of a non-teacher-adult who got 10 weeks off their job every year?!) And not every teenager either wants or does have sex. Plenty wait for the right time/person or marriage to get involved in that. (Which is a very smart decision!)
Not everything about being a teenager sucks. I just wish I'd realised what I had before I let it get away from me!!!!!!!
Good luck. Have fun!!! And don't forget to enjoy the ride... Coz whether you want it or not... It's there. =)
';Ah! my boy. Into every life a little rain must fall. '; You can avoid life's torrential downpour if you get into intensive therapy NOW%26gt;
You don't have to ';grow up'; even though you're turning 14. Heck I'm still a kid at almost 26. Follow your own pace and do what YOU enjoy. As for sex ... you don't have to start thinking about that for another 5 (or 15) years if you don't want to.
Relax and enjoy YOUR life. You don't have to try to avoid OR pressure yourself into anything.
Another thing ... it's normal and OK to hate something one day and love it the next.
Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
We are buying a computer for my nephew who's 17 and still in school. I'd like to get him a laptop as I have a Compaq Presario C727US and am having good luck with it. I'm not tech-savvy -- I seek advice whether to purchase a new computer or will a used one be adequate? And can we get away with no having a service agreement, or can you get one for a used laptop? Have until October 1st to do this. I'd really appreciate all and any advices as I may as well be buying a car I have no knowledge to defend myself with -- hoping to hear from the masked answerers, I remain, sincerely yours, Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
As a rule, I don't generally advise people to purchase a laptop unless they have a real need for it. You usually pay more, get less, and they are not user-friendly and more expensive when it comes to upgrading or replacing bad parts.
Since your nephew is in school, I'm assuming he'll use it for schoolwork, and that's a real need. I saw a pretty decent laptop on tigerdirect.com for $450 recently. Computer Shopper August 2008 issue also has an article on ';how to shop for a laptop.'; Check out www.computershopper.com/laptops for full reviews.
Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
first of all how much u willing to spend? does he play games on the computer? if yes than buy him a desktop not a laptop.
i would buy him a new computer as the technologies changes very fast. so he wont be upset within few months.
As a rule, I don't generally advise people to purchase a laptop unless they have a real need for it. You usually pay more, get less, and they are not user-friendly and more expensive when it comes to upgrading or replacing bad parts.
Since your nephew is in school, I'm assuming he'll use it for schoolwork, and that's a real need. I saw a pretty decent laptop on tigerdirect.com for $450 recently. Computer Shopper August 2008 issue also has an article on ';how to shop for a laptop.'; Check out www.computershopper.com/laptops for full reviews.
Seek advice for purchase of computer for teenager?
first of all how much u willing to spend? does he play games on the computer? if yes than buy him a desktop not a laptop.
i would buy him a new computer as the technologies changes very fast. so he wont be upset within few months.
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